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Why can't I get a haircut....
- Mar 11, 2009 at 5:23 PM
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For years...let me say somewhere between 16 and 18 years I had let my hair grow out long....
This is a picture of my on my wedding day...
Then like some crazed person...I decided 3 months after my second son was born that it was time to cut it....I called my best friend and asked her to cut it for me....as this is what she does for a living...so, we did....19 inches donated to lock of love....
However, it was about 2 minutes after that, that I realized just how dumb I was to cut it...cause with it long...I just hopped into the shower...and washed it...and then braided it...dried my bangs...and BAM....on to the next thing...now I was going to have to do something with it...and WHEN was I going to find time for that....STUPID!
About six months later....I realized that I could have a real "hairstyle"...not just hair that hung....
Well, guess what....5 years later...and I still don't have one...only a series of really bad people cutting my hair...over and over and over again....and NOPE...not at the same place...not that dumb...but, this is what I hear with each cut....
What did they do...this should not have been cut this way....why is that like that...what is up with this...
Well, let me see...I have had the lady who sweeps up the hair, cut my hair....I have had a woman do exactly the opposite of what I said...I have had a lady who hates fat people and while she came the closes to giving me a real haircut...she was so rude...that I just could not make myself go back again....I have had people refuse me what I want...cause they said it would not work.....All of the above tell me I need to embrace my curls...that they are lovely....really, cause you don't live them I do...some parts of my head....they are nice curls...other places not so...and then there are some places where it's board straight....really....just give me the hair cut I am asking for....
I am to the point of either shaving my head...or just letting it all grow back out...I am so mad at these people....
So, last weekend...I went to have my hair cut....I only do this about 2 times a year....told the girl all my problems...she sounded way more like she understood me than others I have had the misfortune to meet up with....however, after I left...and once again it was just hanging off my head....so I washed it and dried it my way...and guess what...it was still hanging, and not it a good way....it dawned on me that she spent all her time in the back of my head...cutting layers right where I said I really did not want any....she refused to cut the sides....so I went back a few days later and asked her to do it again...I even took a picture of what I wanted....do you think she did that....NOPE....now I have to let it grow for 6 more months and hope by then that it's long enough that someone....somewhere can do something with it....without all the what happened here crap....
To say that I feel that that is going to happen....well, no...I think these hairstylist today....don't know but 2 different haircuts...both of which I don't want....
I want my hair to look good...so that maybe I can look good...I have worked hard to lose 30 pounds...with about 120 more to go....but in the mean time...I would like my hair to look nice...so that I can maybe start to feel pretty again....instead of ugly, old, fat, over done mother..... I want to go to office functions at my husbands work and not feel out of place....I want to get up and say...wow this is a good hair day....instead of it always being pulled up in a ponytail....cause that is the only way now I can wear it...this last girl really did a number on it....and I paid nearly 200 for it....
Why, why can't I get a style....yes, I know it has curls...yes, I know it's thick....yes, I know....just give me a style will you!
Below are pictures of me....before the most recent haircut....and why I wanted one...and then there will be a picture of what I really want....and can't seem to get....I am just about done...they have just about broken my hair spirit!
above is still wet...out of the shower..
below is once dried...I can't do anything with it...so it goes into a ponytail...
isn't it beautiful! NOT...I am the type that if my hair is down...then I need to brush it...so curls don't work for me....
here is what I would love....but for the life of me...can't seem to get..........
See soft around the face...with my bangs...(cause I have a really ugly forehead)....long...without being to long...IN A STYLE!!! Give me this please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Anyone!!!!
Well, this is the end of my hair tail! Thank you for listening....
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No...sorry...I am in Houston, Texas....however, I have family in Mission...so if ever that way....I will look you up!
Hi Kiwi -- I am so sorry that you feel this way about your hair.
I have naturally thick & curly hair. While you might want to brush it out, you will need to add something to it to keep it from frizzing. When you brush it it will poof. The Garnier fructis serum might help; it does for me & keeps the poof down. Even if you don't end up curling it, the waves will hold better.
I don't know about the "flip" to the style; that usually works with really thin hair, and requires quite a bit of curling iron or hot roller action -- too much for me to do on a regular basis.
Ask Steam -- I warned her that if she saw me when I woke up on Saturday I'd look like Don King. And I was right. Just needed Mike Tyson. LOL.
Kiwi!!!! I love your hair (I know we all love everyone elses hair). The way your hair is cut right now... put a little mouse in it... scrunch it with your fingers and DON"T brush it. It will look UBER cute. And totally now. You'd be one hip and happening mama!!!
You might need gel instead of mousse. It looks pretty thick. :-)
Well, thank you both...however,....you knew there was going to be a but there didn't you...it's been cut since these pictures...and not for the better...and I HATE THE CURLS....hate them....and if my hair is down....I HAVE TO RUN A BRUSH THROUGH IT....just one of my many quirks....LOL!!! I use to wear my hair like that picture of what I want....but, for the life of me...I can't find a soul who knows how to cut hair these days and will cut it like that for me now....The picture you all had in MN...was about a month after I had my hair cut the last time...and the above pictures are 5/6 months worth of growth....it looked bad in that picture you all had....and it did not get any better...and now...well, worse....I so wish I could find someone to cut it nice...so that it lays nice...so that I can fix it nice....so that I can feel pretty...cause I know my hair is looking good...
Squirrell...I love your hair...your curls look all soft and frame your face beautifully....Steam...I love your hair too....Every picture I have seen of both of you...your beautiful!
I am tired...OLD...and worn out...I never get to put make up on anymore...and I just want to feel pretty and for people to stop saying "Yes, Sir, can I help you"....really, I am wearing a dress...and you just called me sir?
I went on a date with my husband last weekend...and my hair looked awful....I so wanted it to look good...so I could feel good....not some fat person with the ugly hair that people were wondering what my husband was doing with me....it was awful....I use to have nice hair...even long it was nice....now...for the last 5 years....it's NOT nice at all....and I don't know what to do with it anymore....
Well, thank you both for all your nice comments....that warms my heart....it really does!
I have the same darn hair you do. It drives me CRAZY. I can't find anybody that knows what the heck they are doing either. I am stuck with a pony tail or a barrette.
When I do try to do something with it, it get frustrated as all get out. I have finally found some decent products though. I use Garnier Frutice shampoo & conditioner. Then I use the same brand of "milk", put in a good amount of mousse, and then add the squirt slick gel. (clear stuff). I just let it dry, no blow dryers, no curling irons. They destroy it.
I have done razor cuts, they tend to make more frizz though.
Good luck, I hope you find the right person.
I think your hair looks gorgeous-I would love to have thick hair! Mine is SO thin!! We have gone to the same stylist for the last 15 years- I would really hate to have to find a new person- she knows exactly what to do with each of us lol! I found her by asking someone where they got their son's hair cut, because it was the look I wanted for my boys. If you see someone with the hair style you like, don't be bashful!! It's soooo hard to find someone who can cut your hair the way you want!!
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from my opinion to get that soft look you may want to get a razor cut to get that soft look around the face and then it wont look so bulky through some layers in it get the style your are looking for if your are located in olathe kansas here is my website universalhairbysahara.com
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