CafeMom is depressing me :(

[lilmami81]

I've been lurking a bit and I have never seen such evilness and hatefulness before.

People who don't know me think I am a bad mother.

People who don't know me consider me a drain on the economy.

People who don't know me think I am a social parasite.

I am generalizing answers from the Answers section, concerning people who are in my situation.  It's amazing.  I worked constantly from 1998 until I got laid of in 2007 and now because I no longer work, I am a bad person?  I have a year left of college; maybe when I graduate, I will be a good person again, according to their standards.

I cannot beleive there are people ignorant enough to think that they can sum up a person's worth by whether or not they recieve any government assistance.  Really?  So only bad people get laid off. Only bad people have hard financial times. There are those who are silly enough to think that I am the exception.  No. I am not the exception.  The vast majority of people who recieve any type of government assitance are like me: they cycle on and off, depending up on thier curret situation.

These women think that the poor are poor because they want or deserve to be poor.  They ignore the fact that 33.4% of the wealth in this country is held by 1% of the population.  They don't seem to comprehend the media working to turn the lower and middle class against each other, to keep us from seeing who is oppressing us all-a small very rich minority.

Let me also add that people who cry about not being able to qualfy for benefits because they are just over the guidelines, frequently stating that they are "not poor enough,"  do you know what the guidelines are?  Let's put it this way:

I am the unmarried mom of four, giving me a household size of five.

The federal poverty level (FPL) for a family of five is $25, 790 or about $2,150 per month.

I got laid off, like I said earlier.  I get a little over $1,000 a month in unemployment.

$1,000 for a family of five. 

I got denied for Medicaid because my income was too high.  I recieved the letter last weekend.

I obviously can't afford insurance and I have no job to offer me any. 

It's not me versus you.

I am not wasting your tax dollars. 

My family is having a hard time. We will soon be out of it.  I graduate in a year, and I will again be paying taxes to help people like me, families like mine.  Realize that you cannot judge the value of another based on their current situation. You don't know where they are going or where they have been. 

Yes, it's the internet but realize there are real people on here, as real and worthy as you.  The evilness you project will come back to you.  God doesn't like ugly.  And for the nonbelievers, karma is a bitch.  Why not see what you can do to help?  Why not see what you can do to make us a better America?

Let's act a little more human, a littl more American.

[QueenBmommy]

Mar. 11, 2009 at 8:35 PM

Don't take it personally.  It's those kind of "woman" who try to make themselves feel better by belittling others~

You keep on doing what you've been doing and screw all the negativity!! 

[cleanaturalady]

Mar. 11, 2009 at 8:39 PM

My advice is to stay out of the Answers section.  That is where all the mean people live.

[shantestv]

Mar. 11, 2009 at 8:43 PM

Don't let these people depress you.  You are doing good for you and your family.  You have goals and you are reaching for them.  People will always have something negative to say about anybody.  I've seen lots of this on cafemom and I just ignore them and if they directly attack me I address that as necessary.  Keep your head up mama!

[motherofanaries]

Mar. 11, 2009 at 8:45 PM

lol to pp!

I agree w/ you momma, our family got into hard times and it was difficult for us to get any assistance.  But it's hard to go to the grocery store and see the woman in front of you with seven kids (this happened to me just the other night) using up all of her foodstamps and 7 (!) WIC checks in one transaction.  Most of the food she got was frozen entrees, snacks, and drinks.  People like that abuse the system.  People who get part time jobs for two days a week and supplement with selling drugs so they have nice cars, nice clothes, jewelry, big tvs etc abuse the system.  I've been w/ SO for five years, yeah, I could have one kid a year and live off the government, but i'm responsible enough not to (and a little dignity doesn't hurt either)

So don't take it personally.  These are the kind of people most moms are complaining about, not the ones who are trying.  Unfortunately, the ones who *are* trying usually "make too much" for the system to

[ThaMCE]

Mar. 11, 2009 at 10:12 PM See? YOU are doing something for yourself and your children, and you're doing the best you can. I know what it's like. Even when the economy was good, I was a displaced, abused single mom on welfare and WIC, but I was in school, just like you when Maija was a baby. Then I got my old job at the mall back. Then, a job at school, and a weekend job where I had NO time off. THEN I started getting better jobs and doing well. I'm back to square one, laid off and staying home while Joe works. YOU are not like the OTHERS who are doing NOTHING...Remember that. Don't let those people get you down! You're awesome. Seriously. :)

[grandma_mary]

May. 31, 2009 at 1:26 PM

I know late but to me these women sound jealous, your going to school trying thats all anyone can ask for you go girl your doing good for you and your kids...God Bless