Question about Visitation

[linds22]

Some of you may know the situation with my oldest daughter's biological father. I wont get into MAJOR details with that, but I'll give you a rundown. he's had nothing to do with her since she was 3 months old (even when i was WITH him he refused to baby sit, change her diapers etc...), never paid child support. Asked for a paternity test when i took him to court of C.S., he quit his job when he was ordered to pay, so he wouldn't HAVE to pay (or so he thought). hired a LAWYER, who was an idiot by the way, and she didn't even show up to court with him. He started calling me three times a day or more, bugging me, wanting us to "hurry up" and get my husband to adopt Kayla in a hurry so he wouldn' thave to pay C.S. We told him to stop calling. He didnt. I have a tape of like seven messages saying things like "im sick of you not answering my calls. I dont want to deal with this bullshit anymore, if you don tacll me back by 2pm, im going to have my lawyer file for joint custody, b/c if i have to pay child support on THE CHILD, i'm going to see THE CHILD." He wouldnt even say her name! Anyway, the last time we went to court they had a body attachment clause in his paper work. he, of course, didn't pay, and he went to jail. he bonded out and I got that money. he just made another payment on friday...does he have a chance to get visitation? Even if its obvious that he's only trying to get visitation out of spite? he doesn' twant to see her. He wants my husband to adopt her--which he's going to when we get the money. This is the first payment he's ever made in over 2 years, other than when he bonded out of jail. I just dont wnat him to get visitation out of spite. He'd only take her to his mother's house, and that bitch will NEVER see my child. Can anyone give me any suggestions on what to do in case he asks for visitation?

[mrs.mcneill]

Apr. 22, 2007 at 7:19 PM

when he calls and leave nasty messages save them as evidence

[Steph839]

Apr. 22, 2007 at 7:22 PM If he by chance is awared vistiation can you not talk to your lawyer to make it at LEAST supervised vistation. Just the fact he has not seen her in 2 years you can say you dont trust him and are afraid what he might do alone with her type thing.

[SWEET_TERESA]

Apr. 22, 2007 at 7:25 PM  it depends on the situation,    save all the calls ect,     sounds like he needs to grow up,     but  with the evidence he not  ..  responsible to  be a father, dependin on state, hed have to have supervised visits,   I  know it sucks but they have rights,    unlesss you can prove hes unfit,  he  has rights to see his child, I know you didnt want to hear that,    I know here in iowa,  you got to prove him unfit .. so he cant get visitations,    maybe the recording will help ......... keep you chin up,    all will work out in the end.