Breast is Best Bullies

[CCmom05]

I have seen my fair share of posts on this site that talk about breast feeding vs. formula feeding. I am starting to wonder if this site has become a channel for Breast Milk Bullies. Before anyone gets their panties in a twist I would like to say that I am not attacking breastfeeding and actually support it. But lately the "informative" posts have shown to be leaning more towards breast milk and have a condescending undertone leaving mothers who bottle fed feeling defensive and sometimes guilty. Information should be helpful not fanatical.

I have seen posts that call women who bottle feed selfish, stating that bottle feeding will lower the childs IQ, and that a bottle feeding mother is endangering her chances for REAL bonding. I have seen phrases like "you are putting your child at risk"...putting your child at risk is leaving them alone in the bathtub! I don't know about you but that sounds like bullying to me.

I feel if you love and take care of your child you are a good mother. It is time to stop the bullying and respect mothers for the choices they make. Whether it was a medical reasons or personal decision there is no reason to judge someone for their choices.

As for the label that is being decided to put on formula packaging, are you serious? Treating baby formula like cigarettes or liquor, what has this country come to? I have an idea for that label..."It's none of your damn business!"

[roolynn]

Mar. 16, 2009 at 2:57 PM

Well said!!!! 

[mom_2_3crzyboys]

Mar. 16, 2009 at 3:30 PM

[mom_2_3crzyboys]

Mar. 16, 2009 at 3:32 PM

forgot to add...i am a breastfeedin mommy of my 10 month old. i could really care less about what every other mom on cafemom is feeding thier child...as long as the kids getting fed then thats all that matters!

[mama4Christ361]

Mar. 16, 2009 at 4:35 PM

I breast fed, my dd was iron intolerant and could not eat my breast milk, it literally was killing her, she was starving. I get on the breast feeding posts and say this, and the women tell me my dr's lied that she was fine! Ooookay idiots, she didn't gain a single ounce in two months until I put her on goat's milk, so you can kiss my formula feeding butt!

[Meandmyadalee]

Mar. 16, 2009 at 5:21 PM

You are sooo right. I breastfeed my six month old baby girl, so I joined a group for breastfeeding moms. Well, another mom was asking for advice so I told her what we do. We supplement with formula. It works for us.  Well, another mom came along and said that I had TERRIBLE advice and if she wanted to be a SUCCESS at breastfeeding then she has to exclusively breastfeed. This was about 4 months ago....Well, guess what? We are doing just fine at six months. I left the group because of the breastfeeding NAZIS. I was bullied and I am a breastfeeding mom. 

[heavenleeangel1]

Mar. 16, 2009 at 6:37 PM

I don't know about you all, but I breast fed my son who is 10 now from 0- his 5th bday.  Not just straight milk, but he ate normal food too. My body didn't seem to give to much more milk by the time I was done anyhow.

It was a personal decision for me. I had seen Native woman talk about how long they could feed their children.  So I did just that.  He is very attached to me now.  Not in a weird way, or anything.  He doesn't get ear infections ever, few colds. He's very healthy and likes to eat everything in the house. 

May seem weird to some but it was normal for us. Bed time sure was easier, he would just fall asleep fast.

 

[shell81]

Mar. 17, 2009 at 7:13 AM

I agree. I hate when breastfeeding moms say they bond more than bottle feeding moms or just that they keep on breastfeeding because of the bonding. There are other ways to bond with a child. I tired to breastfeed and it didn't work. I wish I could have experience that but I never will get to. I have my own views on how long someone should breastfeed but I don't write journals about it all the time like others do to get the word out on how bad bottle feeding is.

Had t share though lol about one yrs old off the breast and on a sippy cup . Almost all women I have seen on here say they don't do that because of the bonding well read a book to your child!

[NikkiPhoenix]

Mar. 17, 2009 at 10:46 AM

I think I love you!

[ColtsFan1912]

Mar. 17, 2009 at 11:31 AM

I dunno. there has been a LOT of things bashing BFing also. I've been told to cover up while NIP & I"m a perv for bfing over a year. it goes both ways

 

[justanotherjen]

Mar. 17, 2009 at 11:40 AM

I've learned to ignore it.  I have 4 kids that were all 100% formula fed and I really don't care what other people said.  It is NONE of their business.  I never had any urge to BF and when I tried I hated every moment of it.  It wasn't some great, wonderful, awsome feeling and bonding experience.  I HATED it.  I wished I had never had a baby and ignored her unless she wanted to eat and then I sat there resenting her because it was so incredibly awful (and it wasn't even that painful...it was emotionally draining and the most unnatural feeling thing I have ever tried to do).  Switching to formula was the best thing I ever did for my children and for my own mental health.  Physically I could have continued to breastfeed but how long would my mental stability have lasted?  I'd rather not find out.

I have 4 formula fed kids and they are rarely sick and the sickest any of them have ever been is s stuffy/runny nose and cough.  My oldest only recently started complaining of sore throats and they only last a day or two.  Other then that we've had like 2 bouts of a 24 hour stomach bug and a few instances of pink-eye.  That's in almost 9 years of having kids.  We have never had an ear infection or strep or any serious illness.  Only my oldest 2 have ever seen the doctor for sick visits and most of those were for stuff that was kind of silly (pink-eye--a few times, a sty on my son's eye that wouldn't go away, a virus that ended the day after we took her in..I think that was it).  My youngest 2 have only seen their doctor for well visits.