I'm going to cry.

[peanutsmom323]

 My hubby wants me and the family to move to Austin before the end of April, so he can take a NON PAYING position in a band that he quit before we got married because he wasn't happy with them. That's a month away. We can't afford to move anyway. WTH is he thinking? He will hate me if I try to make him stay here. If I let him move us, this is going to financially devastate our family, and I will probably hate him for that. I love him, but I'm really starting to wonder if our marriage is ever going to work. I want him to be happy, I really do, but he seems to not be able to see what the responsible thing to do is in many cases. Yes, we all have to be happy for life to be worthwhile. But why does it cost so damn much to make him happy? Not that I think the move and rejoining the band would make him happy anyway. He just shouldn't have gotten married. He didn't understand what he was giving up and the compromises he would have to make. Taking our situation elsewhere will not change that.   

[msobvious12]

Mar. 16, 2009 at 5:07 PM

granted i don't know the entire situation you're in, but your synopsis seems to be spot on.  in my opinion a wife must be firm in her need to protect her family at all costs.  a wife knows where everything is, where it should go and how it must be done.  more to the point: speak up to your husband and share with him what you think and how you feel.  a husband and wife are equals in a marriage.  neither need or want supercedes the other. 

i'm not sure how religious you are but here is how i think and feel.  happiness comes and go, but JOY stays put.  makes any sense?  a man knows he must provide for his family; a man secretly likes being financially depended on (go ask him); a true Godly man cleaves to his wife and loves her just like Christ loves his bride, the church.

i hope what i've said helps.  good luck.