I placed my 16 year old son, Michael, in Drug rehab yesterday. He has been on something and needed help, badly. 3 Conversations in less than 12 hours were the same exact conversation, so....hubby and I did commitment papers yesterday. I just need encouraging words to get through this..... thanks ladies....

This is my son on his 16th b-day w/ me...


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Mar. 17, 2009 at 7:54 AM

Im sorry you had 2 do that !! Its hard when you gotta do something like that 2 someone you love !! My nephew has been in & outta jail he is only 16 .... stand your ground & stay strong he will be alright & so will you !! Good Luck !!

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Mar. 17, 2009 at 8:06 AM

I have a very good friend who just celebrated his 8th month of sobriety.  Please know you are doing the right thing, which is not the easiest thing.  Sending you lots of love, Momma.

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Mar. 17, 2009 at 8:13 AM

Thanks to both fo you... I need this...

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Mar. 17, 2009 at 12:09 PM

stay strong my little brother has been on drugs since his early teens. None ever mafe him accountable fro any of his actions. He is 24 and has a 2 year old son. He wa just sentenced to 5 years for a violation of probation. He still does not want to go to rehab he wants to do his time and then do what he wants. Stay Strong for your boy and fight for him.

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Apr. 3, 2009 at 2:06 PM

Hi MicheloAnn,

First, please remember that you are in no way responsible for your son's (or anyone else's actions).  He made a conscience decision to take drugs.  My son, who is now 24 and incarcerated because of probation violation that stemmed from drug related incidents.  On drugs, they are under the control of Satan himself.  I am saying this because the drug use only breeds destruction in every aspect of their lives- nothing good ever comes from drug or alcohol use.  Once someone is an addict or alcoholic, it is not just their disease, it is a family disease, because it affects every loved one in that person's life.   The best thing I can tell you right now is to look up Nar-Anon or Alanon meetings in your area and attend with your husband.  There is so much for you to know that they can help you understand.  My son has been a drug addict now for 8 years and I have been a basket case off and on because of it.  He has caused major damage to my home and finances and it didn't have to be that way if I only realized that I would have absolutely no control over his addiction, instead of thinking that somehow I can get through to him or control his addiction - that is not possible.  People spend up to thousands of dollars thinking that if they force someone to do the right thing that they will go along with it.  You may or may not have a long road ahead of you with this but remember this, until he is absolutely ready to give up the drugs, all the money in the world won't help him get well.  He has to decide that he is ready and wants it.  Always let him know that you love him, always respond to him in a soft and loving voice and let him know you will always stand by his side.  You can not carry the burden's that he may create for himself, but you can stand by him while he goes through them.  Don't give him any spending money - if he wants something and you can, you purchase it for him.  The last thing I would like to tell you is keep faith in God and pray for your son's deliverance and restoration from drugs.  May God bless you and your family.

A soldier in Heaven's army,


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