When Love Is Not Enough

[Angebor]

The song says "all you need is love."  Well, love is essential to a strong healthyspouse marriage.  But is it really enough?

Love is an offering of an essential part of one's self to another.  Love is action.  There is friend love, family love, romantic (or erotic) love and a love, as a Christian, we've identified as God's (agape) love.  God's love is unconditional, complete and unlimited.  So as a spouse, what are we offering to our dear husband or wife?

We have always maintained that the greatest of marriages require of us all of these love types.   On any given day, a type or manifestation of these loves may be more required for a situation.  Over a lifetime, seasons will emerge when a particular kind of love becomes more or less prominent.  But there is a sinew or connection that keeps a marriage afloat as we transition through seasons.  That connection is commitment.

We see commitment to marriage as a personal resolution to make every effort to strengthen the marriage through beneficial and supportive behaviors and actions over a lifetime.  Commitment isn't just maintaining you'll never get divorced.  That's what maniacs say just before they kill their spouse and themself.    Commitment must be effort and effort with a focus.  Our behaviors and our actions are the outward demonstration of our inward resolve to grow and strenghten any relationship...marriage in particular.

Sounds preachy?

It is!  This is a public declaration of truth to which any happily married person of a number of years can attest.  Love is great, wonderful, essential, inspiring, magical...  Commitment is constant.  Commitment is effort.

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