I'm begging you, Please Help us.(just need advice)

[Sillymommy8405]

So I baby-sit for a family of 3. The toddler is 2 in June, a lovely little boy. The middle child is HELL on earth. and then the 13 yr old is a part time, because half the week he's at his dad's house.

The middle child is the one we need help with. he is 7 and will be 8 in June. He is something else. He's not potty trained and no matter what we do he still wets. he's been to doctors and on medication, it don't stop. his parents put him in Pull up's and now he also poops in them. He will not go to the bathroom you can put him in the bathroom and he still wont go. I as babysitter will not change a 7 yr old.

He has been suppeneded from school 6 times this school year. Now he is only in school from 7:45 till 10 am. He hits other students, throws things at the teacher, breaks things and disrupts the whole class. I will not put my child in the same school as this boy. If he is told to do anything he will throw a fit and be sent home, only problem is, home is to the babysitter where i deal with him hitting the 2 other little boys in the house all day. I need to get my toddlers to the zoo and park and out in the fresh air but I can't trust the 7 yr. old to behave. I can't let the little one's lose out on the education they need just because he wants to do this.

I have chose to trade my single stroller for a friends double stroller and he will sit in it all spring break and if his attitude does not improve it will be all summer long too. Is this wrong? Anything you can say will help greatly. Thank you.

[mommyto2girls00]

Mar. 21, 2009 at 11:11 AM

Don't let the doctors just dismiss this child. He obviously has a disorder of some sort and needs to be treated. And I don't see anything wrong with putting him in a stroller when out in public. If that's what you have to do to keep him safe then do it.

[Girl_Power]

Mar. 21, 2009 at 11:12 AM

don't babysit anymore.  it sounds like he needs professional care, not a sitter.

[Skyler11978]

Mar. 21, 2009 at 11:13 AM

Wow, I read this in disbelief! 7 should be potty trained! To be honest it sounds like he needs a new Dr. Does the parents not want to help this child???? Or the home life for the others in involved??

If I had to guess, it almost sounds like he has ADHD or sensory disorder. Either way a Dr. can't possibly think all is well.

I sure hope you get paid well!!! I wish you the best with whatever you and the parents need to do. I just think more Dr.'s help!!

 

[Shalaseia]

Mar. 21, 2009 at 11:23 AM

Stop playing into his non-sense, he is only doing it because he can and no one has made his stop.  I have told my son try me and see what happens.  Parents have got to stop this trpe of behaviour from the get go and then expect everyone else to accept it, I don'think so.  When my son was little I would never let him cry unless he was truly hurt you know concussion, you know what I mean.  The minute he fell especially after I told him to stop I was like don't come crying to me wanting me to kiss your boo boo, if you had stop running around in the first place you wouldn't be hurt.  Stopped it real quick, you are better than me because I would not babysit a child who is 7yrs old and does not have a disability walking around in pull-up and there is no other reason than the fact that the parents have played into it.  Get hazzard pay and the parents better get a lawyer on retainer because this kid is ging to jail early in his life and the other kids are going to resent him. I know I have a  middle sister, I am the baby and we had an older sister who is passed now, my middle sister was hell and when she got into middle school because my mom was tired from working all night and then having to get up two hours later to be the lunch lady was tired of fighting it, now she has 6kids and was on drugs for more than 30yrs.  Stop it now or get used to it.......Atleast the oldest one get some reprieve when he goes to his dad, send the baby and get a professional for the middle one and stop that non-sense...See I'd let him sit for a day in his pull-up full of all of it and tell him until he gets on some draws,  he can have all the fun he wants.....

[Sillymommy8405]

Mar. 21, 2009 at 11:28 AM

UPDATE>>> I am licenced in Mental disabilities, I quit working a real job to help this child, the parents don't care anymore and the dr. is sick of the parents. His mom was addicted to Meth while she was preggos but she refuses to admit it to dad or anyone.

(Original Poster)

[mommyzgirlz3]

Mar. 25, 2009 at 6:32 PM

Thats not a good situation and the sad thing is not only are you putting yourself in it your putting the other children in it also. What if he were to get really pissed and do more then hit one of the other children. I delt with a child like this a few years back, his mother was my babysitter  cause i didnt want my kids in a daycare. He had ADHD and on top of it he was deaf, his mother let him do whatever he want he woule get on my computer and play and if i came home from work before he was ready to go home he would run at me and bite me. she had to pull him out of school cause he was beating on the teachers and other students. when mallroy was born three years ago I allowed her to watch mallory at her house but mallory kept coming home with bite marks and scratches on her the babysitter said that her son did it casue mallory hurt him. Mallory wasnt even a year old he was 8 years old disabled or not he should not be allowed to do it. My babysitter had to go to five diffrent doctors before she found out what was wrong. Do you ever think maybe the mom lets him be this way as a form of punishment against herself cause she did those drugs wheile pregnant  maybe it is guilt she is living with.