Me venting!

[motherof6inaz]

 

I need to vent!

I made a post a few minutes ago, and it's about online affairs, any ways I wanted to share with hubby, my story, (then one I'm writing) I wanted him to know I was trying to get some research done, and I wanted to see how or what he thinks is an online affair, or what he feels for that matter on the subject, he said he could careless. . . that just chatting with other men is cheating. . . So I said, then talking to women is cheating too, if you are at work and you talk to a women it's cheating. . . cause if it don't matter what the subject ot the conversation is about, you chat with a man it's cheating, so now I see it as if you talk to a man or women it's cheating. . .according to him, He works at walmart and he needs to talk to ppl everyday, but is ok, if he dose it, but if I chat. . .ok you need to take in mind that I am home 24/7 the only time I even go anywhere it's with him and the kids, I have no life but cafemom, and now I get hit with this just chatting with a man, or woman it's an affair. . . so I guess I wont even have a online life anymore, cause it's wrong. . . he said he could careless now what I do. . . .This is upsetting me! I can't believe this! How could you say you love some one but careless about their hopes and dreams, I support him, he wanted to go to school ok I was or am all for it! now I want to go to school, he said I have to wait till he is done, and then what he will be traveling, and I will be here stuck! I hate what I feel right now! so upset, so hurt, so mad, I want to cry! I feel bad now for joining my writes group on line we chat with other writers, there is both men and women in the chats, so was I cheating? I am about to cry. . . .ok I am crying now! OH BLOODY HELL! I should just keep my life to myself what do you all think?

[NADIA-R]

Mar. 28, 2009 at 5:21 PM

Hey don't stress yourself like this I have been in your situation before its not easy. Youe are both under so mch stress right now. He cares about you  and I don't think he means what he said. Talking to a man or chatting with men is not cheating. You know I wish I had cafemom when I was in your situation, this is your way of getting away even for a little while. I didn't have this then so I made other choices.  Things will come on their right time not before or after. Follow your dreams even if you have to study at home, its a start you could do some reading on the subject you are interested in.

[packerfan07]

Mar. 29, 2009 at 8:43 AM

I'm sorry this is happening to you.. but in my eyes you are not cheating. you are trying to feel human by connecting with other people,  being at home with kids is not feeling human.  you need adult conversation.. I think maybe he had a bad day and you were there to take it out on... i wish he knew how you make me laugh online, how some of the things we talk about help us get through the day... take it easy on yourself.. you are not cheating.. maybe this pass over, i 'm sure he didn't mean the things he said.. take care

[grace1979]

Mar. 30, 2009 at 11:34 PM

I don't think you are cheating, it is healthy to have adult conversation with other adults or you will go crazy.  Maybe your hubby just had a bad day, I don't think he meant anything by it I hope.  I hope things get better for you hun I really do.  Keep your head up momma! Take care and sending you lots of ((((HUGS))))

[kimmiepoo]

Mar. 31, 2009 at 12:40 PM

HUGS First off!! i think talking online in a professional way like you writers group with another man is NOT cheating. Talking to someone online is not cheating its what you talk about and getting personall or emotionally attached to that person where one should step back. I am sorry you are going through all this right now and i know you can overcome anything. you are a very head strong, beautiful smart woman!!!