Fake it until you feel it

[Rebeccalynn_dj]

I love being an actress.  I don't get to do it often because I am a mom.  I hope to get back into my passion when my son starts kindergarten next year.

I was thinking about this today when I started thinking about how actors sometimes become their rolls until the play/movie is over.  How does this apply to us?  Lets start immersing ourselves in faking sexy, confident, and healthy ladies!

● Talk to yourself Do you ever wonder what others say behind your back?  Forget about it.  What do you say about yourself?  Are you always putting yourself down?  Do you look in the mirror and think "Pfft"?  Start stopping negative self talk and love yourself.  This task is one of the hardest to do because it is internal.  Just yell to yourself "STOP" when you find yourself doing this.  Then find something positive you can say about you.

● Lose the loser. Folding your arms, slouching, or gnawing on your cuticles is a great way of telling yourself that you are not happy.  It sends a negative message to others too.  This makes friendships harder to attract.  Our friends help fulfill us.

● Poised Stance.  Projecting confidence with your body will make people respond to you more positively, boosting your self-assurance.  Head up and shoulders back is the pose that is most attractive to others and  makes you feel better.

● Dress the part. You may think your fat jeans make you feel better when you’re feeling blah, but you’re actually perpetuating that“I’m a whale” mind-set every time you slip them on.   That means trade the ugly weekend wear for cute body-hugging threads that make you like what you see in the mirror.  I don't mean to wear something that makes you feel bad about yourself in the opposite way either.  I mean something that is attractive on you but doesn't look like you put no thought into your wardrobe.

● Sexy down under. Your underwear is the key to confidence. So ditch the granny panties, and make your “special occasion” undies part of your everyday wardrobe. This also includes shaving those legs and armpits.  When you are sexy down under you exude it to your spouse.  That boosts your sex life which then in turn ups your life span and your confidence.

● Pretend you are a pro at exercising  Don't act like you hate to go to the gym.  Pretend you love it.  One day you will love it!

 

If you like this post you should come visit my group www.cafemom.com/group/lifechange .  The group is about changing your life style permanently for a healthy one. 

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[Fistandantalus]

Mar. 30, 2009 at 12:44 PM Okee dokee!

[sapient]

Mar. 30, 2009 at 12:46 PM

The internal dialog is especially true. You can tell when other people are uncomfortable with themselves.  Just say "you are beautiful" to yourself in the mirror over and over. Sooner or later you'll believe it : -)

[grammijudi]

Mar. 30, 2009 at 1:28 PM

I need to apply that last one to myself everyday!  Thanks Rebecca.  You make it sounds so easy! 

[aurorabunny]

Mar. 30, 2009 at 4:25 PM

Very awesome advice and very awesome group! :)

[PinkDiamond717]

Mar. 30, 2009 at 5:59 PM

I love this group!

[JoyeAustin]

Mar. 30, 2009 at 8:35 PM

Terrific journal, Rebecca, and wonderful advice. Be confidant, and believe that you are a beautiful woman.

[beanielips]

Mar. 30, 2009 at 8:53 PM

I love the part about the "fat pants"  I started to do this last year.  I only wear my "comfies" when I am truly under the weather or am going to spend the day snuggling my kids.  I started wearing pants when I read somewhere (probably flylady) that I should be ready to leave the house at anytime.  I didn't realize just how much better I would feel about myself when I did.  Like I said, I still love my comfies, bt now, I wear them when I am really relaxing, not when I am feeling depressed.

[Inle_Rabbit]

Mar. 30, 2009 at 9:45 PM

Love what you had to say!

[bluiidmommy]

Mar. 31, 2009 at 8:28 AM

Great points!

[Philyra]

Mar. 31, 2009 at 8:41 AM

I agree completely!  Especially with the underwear bit.  There's something very satisfying about wearing sexy underthings.  Even if no one else sees them, they make you feel sexier!  I have thrown out all the granny panties and tossed all the blah bras and replaced them with cute little frilly matching undie sets.  So now, even when I'm in my jeans at the supermarket, I feel feminine and sexy.  It's my sweet little secret!