I was concerned,

[angelwings63050]

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So I was a little concerned about how the boys would react to the news that they would not be living with their mom. That in fact they would be staying here with their dad and I. I knew, as well as my husband, that they wanted to live with mom. They love her, of course they wanted to be with her. Anyways we thought that it would be best to tell them at the counselors office so that they could talk about it if they felt like it. I stayed home while my husband and the boys went to the appointment. They are home now and my husband said that they were OK with it. He said that the counselor even thought that our oldest was a bit relieved. I am so happy that they have accepted this. However I don't expect it to be this easy either. I mean they still have to really think about it and I am sure that they will have mixed emotions. I would expect nothing more from them. I will be here as well as their dad and the counselor if they need to talk. Now we can (together) start to heal. No more worries on this subject. It is so nice to be able to say "OK, that chapter of our lives is closed, and for good!"

 

 

UPDATE on 7/27/2010...The boys have supervised visits with their mother every other weekend 8 hours split into two days. Guess who the chaparone is.....? OK I won't make you guess it is the boys father. Things were rough at first but they seem to be calmin down. He has allowed her little time here and there to be with them without him around. He doesn't sit where he can hear the topic of conversations anymore. He basically wants to make sure the sick man that hurt them is not around. He wants his children to have a relationship with their mother. He also wants them to be the ones to decide if there is any anger or unresolved issues that need to be delt with. He just wants his boys to be safe and happy. They are safe! May not be so happy but they are 11 and 14!

[shellakers]

Apr. 1, 2009 at 2:28 AM

Whew!  Deep sigh of relief, for now, huh?  I know some confusion may happen in the future with the boys but you have SUCH a good attitude that I know you'll be able to handle it.  I'm so proud of you for being so loving towards those little guys (well maybe not so little!  lol).  You'll all be fine:-)