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Mama's random thoughts.

Almost two years ago my life came to a complete standstill.  One day I was your regular housewife, and the next I was in a hospital fighting for my life.  When it was done, my body was healed enough for me to survive, but my life has never been the same. 

It's hard sometimes not to dwell on the things I cannot do, or the things that have been taken away from me.  I can't drive anymore.  We will never try once more for a son.  I have chronic pain.  Those are just a few things.

Sometimes I get so depressed I wish I wish I would have died on the operating table.  I wonder just how I good I am for my family.  I cook, I clean...but really what else do I do?

Deep down, I know that that even though these feelings are normal, I have to get a handle on them.  I need to re-assess my self worth, and get my life back.

So I decided to dwell on what is good in my life, and I realized I know a lot about what happiness is.

Happiness is...that special kiss I get from my husband when he gets home every day.

Happiness is...naps with little one in footie pajamas.

Happiness is...a big warm dog across my feet protecting me from the mailman.

Happiness is...knowing my teenager just said no to pot.

Happiness is...the quiet of the house just after they catch the school bus.

Happiness is...the noise that ensues when they come home every afternoon.

Happiness is...having to dish out lots of money for good grades.

Happiness is...homemade dinners on a scratched kitchen table.

Happiness is...having an excuse to play with toys.

Happiness is...discussing a good book with your kids.

Happiness is...seeing your husband go gray, and finding is sexy as hell.

Happiness is...old sweatpants and holey t-shirts.

Happiness is...my fireplace and a good book.

Happiness is...remembering the feel of my babies at my breast.

Happiness is...a cup of weeds picked by little hands on my windowsill.

Happiness is...not having enough lap for all the people who want to sit on it.

Happiness is...MY FAMILY.

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Diann...
Apr. 1, 2009 at 6:17 AM

Thanks for the reminder that it's the little things that make us really happy.  Sometimes THIS mom needs that reminder when I want everything to be PERFECT!

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mamap...
Apr. 1, 2009 at 7:12 AM

Awww, thanks Dianne!

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Hoosi...
Apr. 1, 2009 at 7:39 AM

This is an amazing post.  I am writing this comment through tears at the raw, true, and obviously heartfelt words that this is written with.  You truely are an inspiration.  Do not ever sell yourself short with "only cooking and cleaning."  You do so much more for your family, and now, for us.  I am glad you did not leave this world on the operating table, and I hope that whatever is ailing, you can either be healed, or come to terms with it and know that even if you are somewhat physically limited, your love, kindness, generosity, and your beautiful words and wisdom, are touching so many more people than you ever realized might, especially THIS mom!  Thank you for reminding me what is important in life!  May you receive all of the blessings and love life can offer!

  you rock

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Jules_
Apr. 1, 2009 at 1:42 PM

Beautifully stated!  Thanks for sharing and reminding us what is really important in life!

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mamap...
Apr. 1, 2009 at 4:00 PM

Wow I left and came backa few hours later and this is actually on the popular list!  Thanks for the kind words, ladies, and showing me that not just the drama posts get read.

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