What should I do?

[mamaofwildboys]

 Ok, I hate my job.  I've been here 5 years and I feel unimportant.  I do get pretty decent pay and have insurance paid for.  That is why I stay.  Its not so much the "work" I hate, its the drama and bs that is constant around here.  I can't express my opinions on anything.  If I were to say something about a situation I'm not happy with, I would be labeled a trouble maker and told I have a bad attitude.  A friend of mine got fired yesterday because she voiced her opinion.  She was getting paid less than anyone and had been here longer than anyone.  Totally not fair.  Our boss said she had a bad attitude and let her go.  One of my bosses I get along with told me basically to keep a smile on my face and act like I'm happy, because the other boss is looking for reasons to fire people.  So here I sit miserable.

My husband makes good money also.  We plan to get pregnant soon.  I told him that after the baby is born I would like to stay home.  I said I could babysit a few kids to help out with the income.  Granted it wouldn't be as much as I make now.  We would have to sacrifice some things and tighten our belt alot.  But it can be done.  He is ok with it.  But I'm still unsure of what to do.  With the economy as bad as it is, jobs are hard to find.  So do I stay and be miserable or what?

[vicki1130]

Apr. 1, 2009 at 4:47 PM

If you want or need the extra income right now, either to pay off debts or to prepare for the baby you're planning on having, stay. BUT ONLY until you find another job. Job's are scarce, in most fields, but people are getting lucky here and there. If you don't feel like you'll have any luck, or are just so blasted miserable that you can't stand it.. stay...BUT only until any and all debt that you have is eliminated. You could start tighting up now instead of later. Make double payments on any bill you have, or as close to double payments as you can. Eat at home. By doing this now, while you still have a job(abliet a crappy one) will help you deal with the financial situation later. It won't be a shock to you when you do quit or have another little one if you tighten up the finances now and eliminate any unneccessary spending and debt. When you pay off a bill, take the money that you'd have used to pay that bill and put it in savings.

Good luck hun...

But, to shead some light on a possible reason your friend got fired.. most companies require that you keep your pay to yourself. If she knew what everyone made, and caused a stink about it because she was not making as much, she and whoever told her how much they make could very well be disciplined and fired. At least that's how it works here. We sign a letter of acknowledgment every year where we promise to keep our pay to ourselves... Raises and the like are done once a year, after an employee evaluation. Don't know if it's like that where you work, but that could possibly be the reason.

[BLACKBUTTERFLY1]

Apr. 1, 2009 at 5:25 PM

Try to find a new job now. If you are stressed you wont get pregnant anyway. If you plan it well enough you can quit and not need the extra income. pay off some of your bills now and that way you will have less of a strain when you do quit if you don't have another job lined up. Good luck in what ever you choose. :)