Can I gripe about something?

[KelsJez]

I need to vent, and this is the only safe place to vent my frustrations without causing drama.We'll just get right into it.

My dad has been dating a wonderful lady for the past few years, and I honestly couldn't be happier for them. The past few years have been tough for my dad and I know his girlfriend is making that time a lot easier to deal. What I'm not thrilled with are her kids. Her kids are about the same age as I am. Her daughter is a few years older and her son is exactly my age. Now I don't want to toot my horn too much, but I think pretty much have my shit together. I have my head on straight and I'm going somewhere with my life. This can't be said for her daughter. This girl does NOT have her priorities straight. Her daughter has a son who is 6 months older than my daughter. My daughter is so much more advanced than this little boy, it's laughable. At one point I psuedo diagnosed him with failure to thrive. He was not walking by 18 months. I know this was not due to him just being lazy, this was due to his mother not spending enough time with her son. Her government healthcare offered help to figure out why Camden wasn't developing as he was, and you know what her main concern was? If she was going to have to miss work. She works as a cocktail/bartender 6 nights a week. Her son is at a daycare during this time. She picks her son up the next morning at around 8 am and then goes back to her place with him and proceeds to go back to sleep. She spends maybe 5 hours a day with him (half of it spent sleeping) and then it's back to work to do it all over again. And the one day she has off, what does she do? She dumps him at Grandma's because "she needs a break." She dumps him when she goes grovery shopping, she dumps him to go out with friends, she dumps him for no good reason. I don't understand mothers like this. SPEND TIME WITH YOUR CHILD!!! She sits there and wonders why her child isn't as developed cognitively and physically as other children his age. Hmmm, let's think about it. Her first priority in life is her job. Not her son. See the problem??? But what really ticked me off was seeing a picture of my dad and her mom and a comment left by her calling my dad Grandpa Tom. Granted he is a Grandpa, but he's not your son's grandpa!!!! He has one grandchild, and that's my daughter. It's no wonder than Camden may call my dad Grandpa, he's always there when she dumps him off. And get this, she's down in the cities and who does she dump her son on so she can go out??? My dad!!!! This child is not his repsonsibility. I feel bad leaving Brooke with him so I can go out. My daughter is my first priority. She wonders why her child doesn't know his animals, shapes, more than 10 words, it's because she doesn't spend any time TEACHING him!!!!

I'm sorry to bitch like this, but I am very overprtective of my dad. He is my life. I don't want some irresponsible selfish bitch taking advantage of him because he has a kind and giving heart. She has her own father. I'm sorry if this father doesn't want to have anything to do with her, but stop trying to take mine. Find a different job that allows you to spend more time with your child. Lord knows how this is going to affect him when he gets older.

[tazzygurl611]

Apr. 2, 2009 at 3:07 AM

OH she is an immature girl. She is still trying to live her glory days with her mom and her moms boyfriend stepping in as psuedo guardians.

Have you given her a piece of your mind? I totally would.