Is it me or do a lot of people think big families are weird?  We live in the time of 2.5 children but I have to think with all the shows about big families that women are drawn to them for one reason or another.

Is it that we think big families aren't normal anymore or do we admire women who can or will have more than two children?  It seems in our society three is big, four is brave, five or more is almost considered insane. 

Their was a time not to long ago that families were typically four or more.  My Grandparents had 8 children. My Grandfather grew up in a family of 12, my Grandmother grew up in a family of 8.  Now we make shows about big families like this.  But are these families really an anomaly or have we just bought into the idea that they are?

Is their anything really better about only having two children?  Is having a large family really that hard to do? 

I realize everyone is different but we seem to fear that. We seem to think we all need to conform to some standard society has set for us. We do this all the time with everything from working or being a SAHM, to whether we should be married or not, to this question of how many children is appropriate?

I just find it all  fascinating!  



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Apr. 2, 2009 at 3:10 PM

I think it is just that it is not the norm anymore so people look at it with shock. I have 5 and get all sorts of comments. Most are just because many people don't see that all the time.

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Apr. 2, 2009 at 3:17 PM

I am one of five I have ALWAYS wanted to have a big family. I have 2 kiddos now.... would love to have more!

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Apr. 2, 2009 at 3:33 PM

I'm one of five as well and I loved having siblings.  I have four children and one on the way.  For me this isn't weird or even large.  I know so many families with more than four children that I really don't believe it's that uncommon today, like most of us believe it is. 

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Apr. 2, 2009 at 4:55 PM

I would have loved to have had more children. I'm one of four, and my hubby is, too. I always thought we'd have four, but we didn't. I love my two; they are blessings in every sense of the word. But I would have have gladly welcomed more.

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Apr. 2, 2009 at 4:59 PM

I don't think big families are weird, just more unusual than "back in the day". Back then, traditionally, the women stayed home with the kids. Nowadays, you often have two working parents (less time to devote to their kids), and for a lot of us, the cost of having more kids is not feasible. Also, far fewer women were on birth control. My grandparents had 11 kids and I remember my grandmother saying she gave up on sex "because she got knocked up every time and she'd had enough", heh. And another reason people had bigger families 2 generations back was because they wanted the help on for example, their farm. And they wanted assurance they would be looked after in their old age.

Personally, I'd want a second kid, but the only way I'd be able to do that is if I could stay home, instead of working full time. Probably not going to happen.  

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Apr. 3, 2009 at 2:25 PM

I posted in our group! But, call me weird!!! LOL

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