How do you let go?

[angelhorns]

I dated this guy for a awhile and fell totally in love with him, but we had problems and ended up breakingup, as my life goes I am still living with him hopefully moving out soon because it hurts me to be around him. He got drunk and cheated on me when we were dating which is why we are not together anymore, I'm still totally in love with him, and he tells me that he is still in love with me inbetween the srguments we have everytime we see each other. I know he is very emotionally abusive towards me, and I know I shouldn't be with him which is why I'm moving out. But my question is how do I get over him and just move on. I'm thinking about moving out and cutting all connections with him, but it is hard when you care. Any suggestions would be very helpful thank you all for the help.

[robibaby]

Apr. 3, 2009 at 10:09 PM

I was dating a guy once that was emotionally abusive to me and just didn't care about me.  He said that he loved me only when he was physically  with me.  Anyway, after we broke up I still hung out with him and it did hurt.  I finally told him that I couldn't hang out with him anymore because I still had feelings for him and couldn't get over him.  He understood and I never really saw him since.  You'll be surprised at how easy it is to get over someone if you cut those ties.  Out of site out of mind.  Anyway, I think you should just move out.  You'll get bigger and better things happening to you once you leave.  After looking back I can't believe I liked him so much.  He was an a**.  I'm happly married to someone who really loves me and takes very good care of me and wouldn't do anything to hurt me.  You deserve that.  

[angellady535]

Apr. 4, 2009 at 12:09 AM

 This is a 50/50 kind of relationship you make it or brake ! The same for him .  Deep down inside you already know what to do  !  If you are really in love asking someone wouldn't be consider."  You would work things out !  Now if you leaving because of pride just take it and put it in a bag ! I feel you might need to sit down and talk to him . I feel if you can trust him you make reconsider on braking up !!

[angelhorns]

Apr. 5, 2009 at 10:58 PM

Well he has a new girlfriend and he still tells me how much he loves me, and he still tries to seduce me. And if she has a problem with me then he would tell her I was here first. I have talked to him numerous times but I think its too late to work things out. Although he is very upset about me moving out, all we do is fight, and I told him if I make him so miserable why can't he just let me go and not be mad about me moving out, and he said no matter what he was going to be upset.

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