His maybe baby momma...long vent! Rated PG-13 for language!

[stacyemmy]

I want to start off by saying I HATE this girl! If I wasn't a mother I'd fuckin go to her house and beat her to death with a baseball bat just for being such a stupid fuckin cunt! And it's not because she slept with my man or anything. Its the fact she wants to just jump in and out of our life like claiming my fiance has her baby's father and then when he's like ok let's go get DNA and set up child support she's like no your not the daddy anymore. It drives me bananas. Mainly because when this could've happened she was already 8 weeks pregnant. She says it happened earlier but I know for a 100% fact that there is NO WAY IN HELL he could've made time to drive over an hour away to hook up with her around the time she got pregnant.

He was working 2 jobs and going to high school full-time and anytime he was off he was with me and our daughter. But like she lies and says she military police at the base. When she can't be military police at the base and live over 2 hours from it. Also she is in the army supposedly but its an airforce base. Not that that's not possible but she says she works the gate (but their gate security is an out-source security company) my man is going to the marines and him and his recruiter go workout at the base everyday so we're becomming pretty familar with how things work there. Also she says her rank is MP 1st calss. THAT'S NOT A RANK! PERIOD! I have asked army people, navy people, marines people, and airforce people. It's not a rank.

But the main thing that pisses me off is she acts like I am not to be involved in things between my fiance her and "their" child (when she says it's his) and it pisses me off because I am marrying him and that will be my step child if she ever  gets her head out of her ass. Oh heres another thing. We don't know her real name. First is was Sashia then it was Sairah then Michelle and not Sairah again. So IDK I want to beat the shit out of her but hey I can't do that. And here's the whopper in this situation SHE IS FUCKIN MARRIED! OMG SHE IS MARRIED! WAS MARRIED WHEN THE INCIDENT OCCURED!

I am venting because she just messaged him on myspace knowing that I check it and she said that she will let him see his son when he leaves me and our daughter! He'd rather cut off his arm then leave HIS little girl. I just get so mad because she lies SOOOOO MUCH and then she tries to tear us apart for no reason when she is fuckin married! And my fiance really feels like shit that he may have this kid he's never even met. And I feel worse because she makes it seem like its my fault. But she left him alone for almost a year til she saw his myspace say he was going to the marines then suddenly she needed child support and insurance, but the mention of dna put her on the defense saying its not his. And whats worse she stalks me on the internet I use a site called myyyearbook and she gets on there and posts things about me and my fiance. OMG I just can't stand her!

This is her and her hubby..

This is her son..

And then here is my fiance

And here is our little girl!

I think my fiance looks like her son especially his baby pictures, but honestly that doesn't mean anything.. But once he gets some cash saved up hes getting a lawyer and finding out if that kid is his! And I hope not because I know if I have to deal with her (which I will cuz he plans on if its his going for full custody and with him being military he may not always be able to do the transfers for visitation) UGH! And I know I will end up kicking her ass once or twice cuz she is so damn mouthy and thinks she is god and OMG my man was unfaithful to me big fuckin deal...her man is gonna be hurt so much worse if he gets attached to this kid thinkin its his then its not and that is worse. Because my fiance told me about her when she first told him she was preggo but then about 5 months she said it wasnt his and changed her number. And then when the child is 5 months old and shit shes like all causing drama and junk and just keeps going!

 I shouldn't let her get to me but when she acts like my fiance is a big piece of shit who makes babies and don't care for them and keeps lying and stuff it makes me want to kill her because he is a lot of shitty things but HE WILL NOT MAKE A BABY AND THEN NOT TAKE CARE OF IT! And honestly the whole situation is a grad party that he went to and got too drunk and doesn't know how he got home (he drank whiskey and whiskey causes him to black out). And his buddies told him he scored with some chick and he was like oh shit and then next thing he knew she was texting him and then shes pregnant. THeres more and if you really want to know just PM me. lol..ok thanx for letting me vent!

[HauteMa23]

Apr. 6, 2009 at 5:06 PM

i'd call maury. you don't need a lawyer but maybe that will get her to go. I'm sorry you are going through this....there are some crazy bitches in this world and I know I am gonna have to warn my son about them too.

[christyv913]

Apr. 6, 2009 at 11:55 PM

the son looks like your daughter sorry he is the daddy lol

[stacyemmy]

Apr. 8, 2009 at 3:36 PM

I could care less if he is the dad I just want her to not be such a crazy bitch and acutally work with us to find out. She acts like its not my business but in 3 months I will be his wife and it will affect me and my daughter and our family income if he has to support this child. UGH!  I think they look alike too  but my fiance swears they don't but her son was even big like my daughter and my fiance were as babies.

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[NewTakeOnLife09]

Apr. 8, 2009 at 3:48 PM

you have a beautiful daughter and good for you and your husband (Fiance) for stepping up and wanting to do what is right. Just goes to show your a bigger person than she is. I think the 2 kids look quite a bit alike.
Good luck with everything. I can imagine it's hard. PM if you need to chat.

[Hellokittygurl]

Jul. 6, 2009 at 2:09 PM Honestly he's doing the right thing by getting a DNA test and they will favor him over her in a heartbeat. Dad's have alot more support these days from the courts. Goodluck to you, i know this post is old, so i hope some things did change.. btw that girl is Fugly :) Your awesome! haha.
And the kids do look similar but i think she has HER hubby's eyes.. they look the same.. i dunno.. How about an update so i don't sound like a fool when things have changed already? lol

[ikesmommy00]

Jul. 19, 2009 at 5:54 PM

Ok, the little boy does look like your fiance. I'm sorry that you have to go through this. I can't imagine how your feeling. She's so not attractive!!! She's just in it for the money. This post is kinda old, but i hope all is well now & hope that by this time, a dna test has been done & hopefully she has left you alone!

[babyof2008]

Jul. 23, 2009 at 3:54 AM

i'd call maury. you don't need a lawyer but maybe that will get her to go. I'm sorry you are going through this....there are some crazy bitches in this world and I know I am gonna have to warn my son about them too.

i aggree u should call maury and get this stuff taken care or so u can go on liven uer own life

[stacyemmy]

Aug. 10, 2009 at 10:01 AM

He is saving up the $$$ right now for a lawyer. I suggested muary and he said pretty much over his dead body would he go on that show.

He doesn't care one way or the other as far as him being the father he just wants to know to shut her up and do whats right.

We're having a little boy in Nov. and I am wondering if they will look alike...but its hard to say since they'l have different mamas.

She hasn't been bothering us lately as from her myspace her and her hubby are spliting up. But my guess is, here soon she'll be up our asses again needing cash since her man will be outta the picture.

We could avoid lawyers if she would let us swab the kids mouth once, they sell dna tests at meijers that you swab and send with 150 bucks to the lab. And my friend did one and it worked.

But we're not worried about her now we're just saving our cash and getting ready for our new baby! But I'm sure once she finds out we're expecting she'll have something to say.

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[aerialmarie]

Sep. 30, 2009 at 9:24 AM

well if the child is his its really not your bussiness unless shes being a unfit mother.....it would be his child with her....if he broke up with you and was going to marry someone else would you want them in your bussiness concerning your children with him....

[davidjames07]

Oct. 6, 2009 at 7:52 PM

my husband and i got together a long time ago when we were in jr high, my parents didnt like me to date so we remained friends until I was  allowed at 16, he starting hanging with this chick and they ended up going out about a year before we got married. she was in boot camp  for almost their entire relationship which lasted about  9 months. one night he called me over and she was there, they were fighting and she left him right there on the spot. so we got together. about 2 weeks later she started calling him asking him whos truck he was driving to work (his was in the shop so he dropped me off at school and borrowed mine) she wanted him to meet her after work so they could talk. he came and picked me up and then i sat in the car while they stood outside arguing about me. you could tell that she wanted to tell him something but she just wasnt saying it i offered to come back and get him and he said no so we left. about 4 days later hes in the garage working on his truck when she calls his phone,  well turns out it was her best friend, she informs me that i need to tell the baby killing ass hole to come to the hospital that his ex fiancee was having a miscarriage. im like okay so i brought him the phone told him what was up and he said okay what hospital are u at and she says SMH so we both get in my truck and go down there i stayed in the parking lot, he comes out of the er doors pissed. apparently shes never even checked into the hospital, so he gets a call again as we are on our way home and she had to be "transferred to NSRMC" which is the hospital his mom works at and she works in the ER so he called her and asked if she had come thru there and its a no go. so we go home and turn his phone off, the next day we went out and he got his number changed. we didnt hear from for about 8-10 months, she found out from my husbands best friend that i was pregnant and he gave her my husbands number like a dummy and gave her mine too. so all of a sudden we start gettin prank calls so we go to the phone co. and change numbers and dont hear from her until she sends him a message on myspace well i start reading the message and all of a sudden i stop and reread it over and over and im a fast reader so dh is like why u stop keep going btw who is this from, when i said her name he looked at me like whats going on now, well i read him the message and hes like no shes a liar its possible but the timing doesnt all work baby i dont get it you figure it out. she basically says that she had a son by him and she included pics that child look just like my husband hes got these eyes that are 3 different colors, they have this golden ring around the pupil and then its purple around that and then blue-green around that. the childs eyes looked just like that. i kinda freaked out b/c i thought he was going to leave and he looked at me and said heather its not mine, if it is then we will do what we have to but baby i promise this childs not mine. so i sent her a message back saying in my husbands words i want a DNA test and I want this to go to court b/c im taking this child if its mine and heather is going to raise it as her own. you know im making good money and that heather is 8 months pregnant with my son, im not leaving my wife, we've sacrificed to much time when we should have been together all along. i dont want this child to have anything to do with you, you're a horrible person and im going to make sure that its mine before any thing happens. so she didnt bother until she found out that i had my son and tried to come into the hospital to see the baby, they wouldnt let her in b/c no one from our family would let her past the guards. about 3 months later i run into her at walmart with some girl and this little boy, and our children looked so much alike it wasnt even funny, i went into the bathroom and cried, i called my husband and said we've got to find out if its yours or not this is driving me nuts. shes cyber stalking me on myspace and i just cant take anymore. a few days later my husband was gettin formula and he ran into her and her "supposed husband" in walmart again, and she pulled him aside and said i lied its not yours. so he comes home and informs me of this. we talked to my grandparents lawyer and he said basically that hes gotta request a DNA sample through the courts and from there it would play out, he called her said to meet at the court house the day of the testing she never showed. we were both mad b/c he missed a day of work for nothing and we were in the process of trying to buy a house. so she changed her number and left us in limbo for about a year after that. on my sons birthday she called my mils house and wanted to talk to my dh, she started this whole hes yours but i dont want my husband to know and i dont want you to take him away and blah blah blah, she said shes already got enough issues with cps b/c she moves alot and the child is always sick. so hes like okay crystal whatever i dont care what u want anymore if you dont want me in the childs life i have a son and heather might be pregnant again. if your that stubborn let his new daddy take care of him and quit bothering me and my wife leave her alone. (ive never heard my husband yell at anyone and he was soo hurt, and he didnt mean anything he said about the new daddy. you could tell that he wanted this child but he wasn't about to sacrifice his wife his son and his could be baby on the way for some "whore" she cheated on him the last 3 weeks of their relationship with her now husband. so everything is fine shes left me alone for about 6 months i check his and my myspace and theres messages on there for the both of us so she goes on to say that the pics of the child she sent him isnt even her child, it was her god child, that she is married but apparently she cant have children. she also apologizes for any and all problems she has caused between us and then ends with if you hate me that fine but god believes in forgiveness and thats what you should do b/c i messed up, i wanted to hurt him and u b/c he hurt me. its been a year now and we havent heard from her. a friend of mine ran into her in mcdonalds and she told her how sorry she was for causing me pain and blah blah blah my friend looked at her and laughed in her face and walked away. So keep your head up and dont worry too much, things will work them selves out. i kno this is long sorry i just figured i'd tell u my experience and show that it worked out and your's will too! good luck!