Meet a VIP in my family...

[dylan-2-mom]

My brother is a jerk... You'd think by the time he was 66 he'd grow up, but he doesn't. 

Our parents are in their 80's and have decided to buy a different house about 3 hrs from me in their hometown and where all their friends and siblings live.  I've been helping them for the past 5 yrs.  My bro and his GF are a contractor and realtor in FL and they tried to convince our parents to move to a house right behind theirs that is for sale.  My bro sends an estimate of $14 grand to get this new house handicap accessible for our mom, the realtor's fee is 8% of the sale.  My bro has not been able to spend more than 3 days at a time visiting them in the last 20 yrs and he wants them to move in right behind him?  OK, so to me it's a no brainer what's going on, but I swear I never said a word to anyone including our parents what I was thinking.  At the last minute, our father decided not to move to FL but instead move 3 hrs from me in PA and automatically I've been accused of "brain-washing" our parents to NOT move to FL. 

I would love to explain to the "golden child" that they don't respect anything I do or say and never have.  I have only ever helped them when they've asked.  I had nothing to do with their decision making bc at their age, if they can still decide what they're doing - great!  It's one less nursing home being chosen.  But, my bro (the absolute best person breathing oxygen) can't accept that they could possibly change their mind without any outside influence.  Then he turns around and accuses me of enlightening them to his and his GF's plans to create an income for themselves out of this.  Of course, his outrageous BS was sent through email, so part of me wants to print it off and hand it to our father, but why... instead, I'll just forward it to the other siblings and let them in on his crap. 

And to add insult to injury, a month ago when I went to China for an adoption, I asked my bro to call my kids and check to make sure they were OK.  His response - "I don't have time to do that.  They're not my kids.  I'm too busy to waste my time making a phone call." 

Let's recap:  If he's too busy to call my kids for me when I'm in China, and he wants our parents to move to the house right behind him so he can help them (who he can't stand to be with for more than a 3 day period once a year over 20 yrs); factor in the 14 grand for work on the new house, and 8% realtor fee and what conclusion would you all come up with???

My brother is a JERK!  Thank God he lives in FL and I live in PA!!!

[grandma_mary]

May. 27, 2009 at 10:50 AM

Yep sorry but he does sound like a jerk and no I wouldn't give the email to my parents but I sure would let other family members in on it. God Bless and don't let him stress you out he's not worth it.