My EX has some damn issues!!!

[Lizzie32390]

My ex makes no sense at all. He called a week ago and we were talking like friends but he had called at 4:30 am and was on shrooms. Then I didn't hear from him until today just about 1/2 an hour ago. He asks if he can take Lacie for the day and I said "no" and he just hangs up. I try to call him back because he didn't let me finish talking but ignored my call and then calls back 10 mins later. I told him he can come visit her. Well he didn't like that idea and freaks out saying, "No I should be able to take my daughter where ever I fucking want!!!" Once again hangs up on me s I'm not going to bother calling back because that made me cry and I was fine and have been fine up until now. I have plans today with my friend Kallie and I told him that as well and he thinks I said Al. He has a new gf and she's some little raver bitch and I don't really want her around my daughter. Besides I think we should be able to go out together as a family even though we aren't together. This girl has really caused a lot of problems and he doesn't even want to be my friend but he sure will ask who I'm sleeping with. He keeps fucking with my head and I don't want to deal with it. He said he doesn't want us to argue but he calls and gets pissed at me and I didn't even say anything really all I said was a simple no. He doesn't like to be told no though. He's willing to spend money on higf and take her out but he can't even buy anything for his daughter and can't go out with us. The child support is under process right now so he'll have to pay but I want him to see his daughter. A week though and he didn't even call to see how she was. I don't think it's right for him to just call up and start demanding that he takes her for the day. I'm upset now but I don't want to let it ruin my day it's just that it gets to me. I still am in awe how he could leave me like he has and not even care shit about me and not really care about anything. I've wasted time and feelings on him and I'm giving up on hope that there will ever be an US again because he obviously gave up and has moved on.

[poptart0325]

Apr. 6, 2009 at 1:26 PM

I'm sorry to say, but he sounds like he might be a little loopy. I don't blame you for not letting Lacie go off with him. Why should he even care if you're seeing someone else when he has a gf already? I don't understand that one bit, unless he's jealous. I just don't understand how he can just move on that fast. And he went an entire week without calling or even coming to check on his daughter? That's horrible. He hasn't been buying anything for her either? No diapers or wipes? That's ridiculous. I don't blame you not one bit for not letting him take Lacie off with him and his gf. I'm glad that you're going to get him with child support. Maybe you should talk to a lawyer about the visitation rights. I wish you the best of luck with everything, hun. Don't let any of this get to you. I'm sure he knows this upsets you and he's probably loving it. <3 Take care.

[Audreysmommy123]

Apr. 6, 2009 at 4:18 PM

i wouldn't allow him to take her either. call the cops if he shows up and tries to take her. Does he have any joint custody or anything? cuz i would get that fixed IMMEDIATELY

[LainysMommy]

Apr. 6, 2009 at 4:37 PM

He is just childish, and sounds like he wants to run around bein a kid, with some stupid homwrecker. Well forget him, your daughter is what matters, and if he is bein a shitty dad, than F-him. just be the best mom you can be, don't let him bring you down. I'm sure he will come crawling back to u,,,by than hopefully u will have a real man..I'm sorry hun <3

[grandma_mary]

Jun. 1, 2009 at 8:13 PM

Bearer of bad news here sorry but my daughter just went thru this, her ex beat her and the kids many police reports now courts tell her that has nothing to do with visitation he has the right? yes thats what they said. Now she can fight it but unless you have thousands better just working something out with the jerk. Can you prove he drinks? drugs? if so you need to do that asap. Just a little advice from someone whos there now.

[Megzboys]

Jun. 6, 2009 at 3:03 AM

  You were right not to let him take her.  If he is on drugs, he is dangerous for her to be with.  Do not feel bad about telling him no.  If he continues to complain then tell him to get off the drugs for good if he wants to see his daughter and be able to take her with him places.   You are her mother and primary care giver so what you say goes.  

                              Meg

[Megzboys]

Jun. 6, 2009 at 3:06 AM

  yeah, listen to Grandma Mary, she sounds like some who can tell you how it works.  Get evidence that he is doing drugs.  That won't look good for him but Lacie will be safe.