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What would you do?
- Apr 6, 2009 at 3:59 PM
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If someone at a store practically ran over your children then cursed them and basically said you had out of control children using lots of curse words. How would you handle a scenario like that?
Tags: bullies, bully, rude, people, bad behavior
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I KNOW I probably would've told her where to go and how to get there, but I would've been absolutely polite about it. Then I woul remeind her that we were all children at one point and time followed by the question how would you feel if this were a child in your family, better yet, if this were your OWN child that was disrespected in this manner.
I work with you and bc of that it has allowed me to be a parent and listener. We have to always remember that these children belong to someone and in order to avoid conflicts that could lead to altercations( Everyone is Not saved) its best to mind yourself and your manners. Kids are a reflection of the adults that pass them daily and in the adults in their families!!
Okay, well this happened to me. But, I didn't really handle it in a Christian manner as I should have. Something happened inside of me, I don't know the Fierce Lioness Momma Lady came out in me. If she would have just said it to me, I would have just blown it off, but because she was referring to MY babies, I said a few unpleasantries to her (no curse words). This lady barreled through the beauty supply store we were in and practically ran us over there, we let it go. Then at Ross the same lady with her cart did it again, but this time she went off on my children and was using curse words and was blaming us for being bad parents and for having out of control children and was using curse words every other word. I am sorry, but I do not fair well with bullies probably because I was a victim of being bullied. So, I came up to this 4'10 or 11' woman and gave her some words of reason and wisdom, only to hear more curse words back at me. Man I was so fired up, I had to ask for forgiveness from God and my family for losing my cool. She just pushed the wrong buttons on the wrong mom that day!
I'm not sure how I would handle it...hopefully with self-control!!! I've had opportunities to pray for people that were being rude to me...but nothing like you described.....maybe God will give you the opportunity to come across this same woman again and you can ask her to forgive you too......she was obviously a divine appointment!
I would stand there silently, feeling like poo, and then get her license plate and go to my cop station where I am good buddies with ALL the cops, and bring up charges of harrassment and child endangerment. Cuz I am sneaky like that.
I would have probably gone off. I mean there has to be some room for reason. They are YOUR children after all. Ask for forgiveness later. When something happens so fast like that it's hard to think and be rational.
Well, I am starting to feel bad and guilty, like I failed. Like I didn't behave the way I should have. And that I handled the whole situation in a wrong manner. And then on the other hand I felt like I had righteous anger. Like she needed to be told she just cannot go around talking to people and their children the way she did and get away with it! It's wrong and damaging! My kids were scared of her after the whole thing happened. I am not perfect, I am human and maybe I was operating in the flesh. But, I think I reacted how most moms would have reacted. We become a Tigress if anyone messes with our children! I am sure there are some close to perfect moms out there that would have just blown it off and walked away, but I am not her. I have been bullied my entire life. Kids bully my daughter and guess what? I don't want to send a message to my kids that says, "Its cool to let people bully you around." We have to set boundaries with people and let them know that certain behavior is not acceptable! Otherwise they will go through life being bullied and abused like I was!
- Here's that verse I was telling you about. Prov. 17:12 (Message) "Better to meet a grizzly robbed of her cubs than a fool hellbent on folly."
- I've been thinking about this since our chat, and bottom line is: whether you were right or wrong in your response, you do have an opportunity to forgive, pray, release and BLESS this lady! Yes, boundaries are good. Teaching our children to not tolerate abuse is healthy. But blessing an enemy? That is the heart of Jesus!
"Blessed are you when people insult you and persecute you and say all manner of evil things against you falsely because of Me. Rejoice and be glad! for your reward in heaven will be great. They did the same thing to all the prophets that came before you, too."
Im sure I would have flipped or stood ther staring like she was absolutely out of her mind and let Paul handle it. Who knows I might have took my cart and ran her down.......I think I have some issues haha. No honestly Karr I have been in that situation before and to tell you the truth I didnt act like I probably should have. Every day we should try to be Model Christians to lead by example and showing that we are set apart. For some of us that is a challenge and for others a chance to show Mercy and The love of Jesus. In any situation and a reaction of there is always something to be learned.
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I would probably pray after I told the lady where to go. God is still working on me with my mouth.