Opening Day and a Sick Wife (Edited)

[mkemom519]

The whole past weekend I was sick with a cold.  My daughter was sick, too, so she wasn't sleeping well and was crankier than she usually is.  My husband was pretty good over the weekend, he let me nap and didn't ask where his dinner was.  Then Monday came and I was sicker than before, I hadn't slept in three nights thanks to my daughter being up every hour and a half all night.  I was really really really not happy. 

This is the part of being a sahm I hate--no calling in sick!  No laying on the couch watching bad tv all day while I blow my nose every two seconds.   Instead it was chase after a very mobile 10 month old, try to get her to eat and sleep, take the dog outside in the snow, get some laundry done, deal with the maintenance man.  And on top of that run a fever, ache all over, and blow my nose every two seconds.

So...My husband usually gets home at 5:30, but I was hoping he would come early so I could get some rest.  I tried calling him all afternoon to no avail.  By 5:30 I was so grateful he'd be walking through the door, I was just counting the minutes until he would be home.  5:35 and the phone rings:  "Hey honey, I'm sorry I couldn't call you earlier.  The battery on my phone is dead.  I'm just leaving the bar right now, I'll be home soon.  How are you?"  Excuse me?????  HOW AM I???  I'm effing sick, I haven't slept in three nights, I've been chasing a cranky 10 month old all day, how the hell do you think I am?  

Apparently his professor thought at 4pm it would be fun to call it an early day and go get a beer and watch some baseball.  And my husband didn't think to call me THEN, only at 5:30 when I had already expected him to be home.  I was livid.  I try to be understanding, like I want him to hang out with his guy friends and do guy stuff b/c he doesn't get a lot of time for that.  And I know he loves baseball and opening day is usually fun for him.  BUT I AM RUNNING A FEVER AND FEEL LIKE CRAP!  GET THE HELL HOME ALREADY!!

Instead of coming home early or even being home at the normal time, he came home 45 minutes late.  I was so upset, I couldn't even be in the same room as him.  I tried to calm down and just go to bed, but I couldn't.  I just wanted to tell him how pissed I was, even though it wouldn't do any good.  He was late, it wasn't going to change just b/c I yelled at him.  I did tell him how upset I was, though, and his response was to get defensive and say he didn't know I was sick.  Really??  So you thought all weekend the snot flowing freely down my face was fake?  All the sneezing and coughing was really a trick I learned in Cosmo to turn you on? AAAAHHHHH!  I love my husband, but yesterday I could've strangled him.  If he comes home a minute past 5:30 tonight I will snap.  I hope his clock is synced up with mine...

So it's now the end of day two.  Husband called at 1pm asking how I was doing.  Very sweet.  I said yep, still feeling like crap.  And our daughter had taken a long nap in the morning which meant she wouldn't be sleeping in the afternoon.  So I asked him to come home early so I could get in a nap.  He said he would see how soon he could finish his stuff.  Cool.

5:30 rolls around and guess who shows up?  Not a minute early...He said hey, how's it going?  I said, I am so upset right now, you said you would get home early, it's 5:30!!  He got all defensive and said he has so much stress and he's trying to make everyone happy, etc etc.  He threw his coat down the hall and made our baby cry.  I hate when he gets like that.  So, it ends up that he left work early but it took an hour and a half to get home??  When it normally takes 35 minutes?  I said why didn't you call then?  "I knew you would be mad."  Gee, that makes me feel so much better!  You are afraid to call your wife b/c she'll be mad that you aren't home early like you said you would be???  Seriously, what is the deal?  I don't think I'm being unreasonable. 

[FluffyMountains]

Apr. 7, 2009 at 12:44 PM

Haha, wow, I would've been pissed too!! I hope you're feeling better!! I hate being sick now, having a baby. No time to yourself to just feel better!

[JamiandBen]

Apr. 7, 2009 at 9:33 PM

OOoooh man. I'm so sorry you guys are sick.  Husbands will always be clueless though, not sure that will ever change. It's a man thing. Tomorrow will be a better day. I've had a crappy week too. Maybe the planets are misaligned. I always like to blame things on the planets.

[Magganiffy]

Apr. 8, 2009 at 3:04 PM

It's almost like you are not allowed to be sick when you have a kid.  Forget taking a nap or trying to get better.  You are stuck.  We are all getting over the worst virus in the nation...I currently cannot hear out of my left ear for a week.  Looking into lip reading and sign language.