Happiness

[crkirby]

How often are you happy in your relationship?  I was asked this the other day, and at first I didn't really understand how I was supposed to answer....the person followed with saying how people who love each other can spend alot of their time unhappy with the other person, but that is normal (she was asking).....

I sat there dumbfounded for a minute....Well, I definately have moments where I can barely stand to look at my husband because I"m so upset with him, but, I'm always happy in some way or another.  When I get mad or upset with him, I'm still happy that he and I are together and we're married.  He can always find a way to make me smile, even if I'm pissed at him.  Our ill feelings toward one another never last more than an hour....

So, I honestly answered that no, I'm never that way & neither is my husband.  This year marks our tenth year in a committed adult relationship & he makes me as happy and giddy as he did when we first got together.  Hell, to be honest, I still get butterflies in my stomach when I see after a long day of work, and that's only being apart for a day!  Yes, we've both changed, but somehow we fought like hell to change together....and I guess that makes alot of the difference. 

It saddens me to think that not every marriage, not every relationship is as blissfully happy as we are.  I want everyone to feel the way we feel...because it's the most wonderful, uplifting, safe, amazing feeling there is.  But, I guess when it gets to the point of utter unhappiness, love just isn't enough.  I can understand that.  It just can't feel like a constant battle to make things the way they were....or maybe that's a whole issue there...people don't realize things CAN'T be like they used to be, we all grow and change and it has to happen together.  I dunno.  This stuff perplexes me...I want to help everyone have the great life that I have found for myself.

I suppose I'm just lucky to have found a person that matches me on every level I hold important.  That there is no constant battle there.  That even when I'm PISSED and want to scream in his face, he can give me a look, or a smile, or pull out his finger people and everything is fine again, I'm laughing and telling him how insane he is.

Maybe my family and friends can see this stuff in us as well...we've been told on more than one account that we are their "ideal" relationship....or that we give them hope that true love is still alive....

Well....whatever it is, I know that every day in my relationship, I am happy, I am content.  This is the man who makes my life spin, who makes my heart beat, and my breaths quicken.  How could I ever stay unhappy with him?  He is my world.  My beginning and my end.  He is what makes me happy.

 

[BeanIrene1]

Apr. 7, 2009 at 10:53 PM

Todd is my everything, he makes me spin, he is what feeds me too.  Shit just gets hard sometimes. Doesn't mean I don't love him. Or that the love isn't enough. Because it is that love that pushes me (and him) to try one more time, to get through to the end of the current struggle.  When ever things get rough, I honestly become MORE aware of how much I truly love him, and how crap life would be without him.