It is amazing how the changing of one small thing can destroy a holiday. The catalyst this Easter holiday began last Tuesday. My brother and his wife came to eat fajitas. He timidly requested that we change our routine of having Easter at my mom's and have it instead at his house. Let me briefly describe his house. Apple cinnamon mixed with dog pee aroma filled landfill. So my husband and I offered our services to help them clean their house on Saturday. We spend from 8:30 am to 3:00 pm cleaning. My daughter was exhausted! She was having an uncontrollable fit! So by 4:30 she was asleep. She slept until midnight and then woke up raring to go. Gary got her to sleep again by 2 am but then she was awake for good by 4 am. Needless to say by the time we were getting ready Sunday morning to leave to go eat lunch at my brother's, she was beyond tired again. Another fit. We ended up canceling Easter. Good thing I made a ham and some black eyed peas. The rest of the evening I cried and cried b/c the day sucked so bad! I get so tired of all the fits.  I feel so overwhelmed.  Will she ever mature out of this 2 year old phase, I mean she's about to be 5 for Peet's sake!  Autism sucks!!  So then my parents come over and I cried to my mom some more to which she responded that I need antidepressants. I just don't know what to do about my Bean. So today we are planning on faking Easter so that I can have some pictures. 

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Apr. 13, 2009 at 2:14 PM

Having an Easter on your families terms sounds like a good idea. There is no reason you shouldn't be able to celebrate and have fun!Kids put a kink in everything, but when it all comes down to it, I think we will remember those kinks fondly and retell the stories for years to come with a smile on our faces.

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Apr. 13, 2009 at 3:48 PM

I'm so sorry Kristina. I feel awful for you and your husband, you worked so hard helping your brother clean and to not get to reap the rewards from your hard work had to be emotional indeed! I'm so sorry your daughter had such a rough weekend, but with children, it's so hard to plan anything because you can never "plan" their daily moods! :) I don't think you need antidepressents, but I do think it may be beneficial for you to talk with someone, a pastor, or an autisim support group, etc. to express your feelings with other who are going through the same things you are! I have a dear friend who has an autistic child and she along with several other Moms have started a support group for their children and themselevs and the results for the children as well as the Moms has been wonderful! They incorporate the LOVE of CHRIST in their meetings and it has truly been wonderful for her. You have gone through so much more than just having an autistic child, you have also had a stillborn child and recently a new child as well. That's ALOT on a Mama's hormones in itself! The past 5 years have been filled with several highs and lows for your family and with you carrying a large amount of the emotional burden it's no wonder tears are falling! God Bless you and your precious family. I see nothing wrong with a "fake Easter" today! :) You enjoy your Easter with your family and who cares about the date you celebrated it on? Easter is about so much more than candy, egg hunts, food and pretty dresses. It's about the joy that comes with giving our lives to the Lord, Easter in affect could be and should be celebrated daily in our lives! :) So, enjoy today with your heart's open content! You and your daughter will be in my prayers~ HUGS

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