World's Punchinig Bag

[Greenspade13]

I'm not sure when this happened but some how I've become the world's punching bag.  Everyone seems to be taking everything out on me.  Their frustration, their anger, their incompetence, etc.

Some perfect examples:

Hubby is frustrated with work, lots of layoffs, changes and down right lies, but instead of talking things over with his boss, complaining when things are going wrong, he takes it out on me by yelling at me for stupid things.  Like for example the other day he was looking for a magazine of his.  He swears I moved it off the dinning room table when I cleaned, but I showed him exactly where I had put those magazines and it wasn't there.  Low and behold, he had taken it upstairs to the bedroom with him the night before.  No I'm sorry for yelling, no apology of any kind.  I'm just suppose to take it and not let it bother me.

My brother is having some kind of mid-life crisis and is unhappy with aspects of his life.  He wants to be married and have kids, but he hasn't found the right girl.  So it appears to myself and other family members that he is jealous of the life I have (hubby, home and hopes of a family).  The last few times I've seen him he has just been out and out mean:  yelling, making fun of me, trying to hit me in the face with a pilates ball and infact cracking the bone in my wrist.  Again never an apology I'm just suppose to allow him to treat me like dirt.

My boss, is stressed and is letting things slip through the cracks at work.  He tells one person he's doing someting, someone else another story, and on and on.  Then yep, I'm the one to blame.  I especially love this when I have no idea that these things are suppose to be happening or taking place.  Tomorrow we are the host county for a large regional news conference.  But he has done little to prepare for it.  He picked a spot at a company that has very tight and high security so it takes about 5 minutes to even get on the grounds.  Yep, there are about 40 people coming.  That will take forever.

He hasn't written the press release or script or agenda.  Now its my fault they aren't done.  He told me that someone at another county was doing it.  Now she's pissed at me for not doing it because she was told I was preparing it all.  He actually told me to start doing my job better.  To which I replied I would love to do my job better but I can't do it at all if I don't know when things have to be done. 

My so-called best friend was suppose to spend the entire Easter weekend with us in Indiana.  We're both from Illinois and she now lives in California.  For months we've been planning this.  A relaxing weekend with shopping, a spa visit and wine--no stresses no family, etc.

All of the sudden she is feeling guilty for not visiting her parents so she's going to spend one night with them.  Okay, I get that.  Then turns into I don't want to bother you and hubby.  No bother we're excited about having you, etc.  To, I can't wait to see you for Saturday only (no longer for 4 days now just Saturday).  Okay, wait time?  Suddenly I'm hounding her about the visit and their are other people she NEEDS to see.  Okay, I understand that as well.  But how is asking what time hounding.

It turned out she decided not to come out to see us at all.  Instead of calling and saying it is going to be too hard to get there or even asking us to come to Chicago (which we would have done) I get a TEXT message saying "Sowee I suck." 

I was livid and replied, "YEP YOU DO SUCK"

I'm not sure why the karma Gods have decided I need to become the world's punching bag but I am.  I'm tired of people treating me like dirt and expecting me to take it and to not care about me at all.  These are suppose to be the people who love me or at least like me.  I'm not going to take it any longer.