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Letting go
- Apr 23, 2009 at 10:16 AM
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It's one of the hardest things I've ever done is to accept that my precious grandson is never coming home again but I've had to. The only comfort I have is that when he turns 18 in 15 1/2 years that we can look for him and let him know that we always loved him and wanted him. That what happened was not our choice.
Not that it's over entirely because we are still going after the people who didn't do their jobs. I never want this to ever happen to another family. To have the joy torn from their home and know there is nothing you can do about it. I still say if they had just called us 4 weeks earlier and said "Hey dad's back in the picture and there's a chance you could lose your grandson." It might have been easier. If they hadn't lied and said that we refused to turn over our grandson. If they hadn't said that I used obsinities (cussed which I don't believe in doing). If they had just listened to our local workers and not called me at work to tell me this news. If just one of them had acted like my grandson's welfare was a top prioitiy instead of covering their butts. If they hadn't accuesed me of conspiring with my daughter to get child support when they're the ones that did it. This whole case was just handled wrong and I'll do what I can to prevent it from happening to someone else.
So many ifs and yet if just one of them had stood up and said "I'm sorry this is happening" It might have helped to make it easier but they didn't. They never carried about any of this and that's what ticks me off so badly.
I have had to let go of the idea of keeping my grandson but I don't have to let go of the idea of seeing him in 15 1/2 years or possibly sooner if the Lord is willing.
I love you my darling grandson and one day we will be together again. Even if it is for your high school graduation.
Tags: grandson, adoption, social services, torn apart
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Sorry I've been journelling about this for a bit so I forgot many won't know the whole story. My daughter signed her rights away because social services were going to take him regardless and she did it with the understanding that we would adopt him. Well birth dad came back into the picture 14 months later and got his rights back and the courts allowed him to take him. He has told us we will never see him again.
I will con't to keep you in my prayers
prayers
You know I am still praying, with a few "select" friends, who still continue to ask about you all and continue in all our prayers. Love to you! I am glad that you are using your "steam" to prevent this from happening to another child. God Bless You in all that you do!
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I'm not sure I understand why your daughter doesn't have your grandson. She is his mother, right? I know a lot of states don't give grandparents rights but it just depends on where you live. Have you gotten a lawyer to see what your options are? This just doesn't sound right.