New Baby Sister, From an almost Non-Existant Father

[izzimommy203]

Okay I don't really know what do in this situation. My daughter's dad and I are not exactly friends. He was not there for me and my pregnancy, he wasn't there when my daughter was born, and he wasn't there for my daughter's 1st two years. So that is my fault for putting up with it and getting used in the end until 9 months ago, when he got some older chic preggers (nothing against older women) and then all of a sudden he decides he is going to be #1 dad for the new baby and mine is just stuck out. I was like WTF? So I emailed his new gf about 3 weeks ago telling her I didn't know if she knew about my daughter (she didn't), and that her bf was a lousy father to our daughter (she wasn't too happy to hear the news that her bf was lousy, but she agreed with me that what he was doing was wrong). She said she would talk to him about doing better and so far at least my daughter has had 3 phone calls. They live in the same city and everything, but he acts like he can't come see Isis (my daughter).

SOOOOOOO she is in labor now. There is no baby just  yet, but it might be a couple more hours. Do I tell my two year old about the baby? or do I just wait? I really don't want to take her up to the hospital if he asks me to bring Isis, b/c the sorry piece of sh***t wasn't there for Isis AT ALL. BUT I don't want to be petty and keep Isis away from a sibling who like her didn't ask to be in the middle of their dad's hot mess. Not to mention that he has an older daughter older than mine, that well probably doesn't know much about the new baby. I don't know what to do or say about it. Should I just act like nothing is giong on maybe???? I mean Isis IS only 2 afterall.

[NannyB.]

Apr. 27, 2009 at 11:57 AM

I would not take her.  She is too young to understand any of this, and she will probably have to deal with it enough when she gets older.  Just let her be a little girl and remain innocent for as long as she can.  Maybe she will be fortunate enough to have her mom find a man who would be overjoyed to be a real husband and father.  That's what I'm hoping for her, because that's what she deserves. 

[Liz1125]

Apr. 27, 2009 at 12:02 PM

Girlfriend

I surely think that the ball is in his court when it comes to this issue. He is going to have to build a better relationship with Isis and introduce her to her little sister. I say dont you do a thing, let him come to you and Isis...you know how I feel about him already....he has alot of proving to do... so we shall see. I'll ttyl.