Throughout time, men have disdained to do the household drudgery and menial tasks that women do every day, with the dismissive declaration that it is "woman's work." This is to give the impression that they are too important to waste time doing work that is beneath them and that it is the role of a woman to ceaselessly do these jobs.

This is a common theme in many civilizations. Household work, food preparation, endless cleaning, sewing, care of children, and basic structure to the rhythms of life--these are the tasks of women. I think about this a lot and I have come to the conclusion that the reason it is woman's work is because men could never do it.  Day in and day out, over and over and over, we perform the tasks to keep our families moving along and our homes happy and healthy. Men rarely have the stamina, self-motivation, or selfless resolve to match a woman. Men could never keep the world running like we do.

That is why it's Woman's Work. Men have managed over the centuries to keep women in their place by giving the impression that a woman's job is less valuable, when in fact is it the most important job there is. We all know a woman's power can be threatening to a man, which is why we see so much misogyny in so many religions and cultures. What is a woman's power? The ability to do work. And truthfully, we can outwork most any man. 

Think about how much work you do. Then think about how much work women used to do in times past without modern technology to help them along. Imagine making ALL your family's clothes by hand. Imagine raising, harvesting and preserving ALL your family's food. And imagine doing this with a dozen children. I don't think I could do half as much as they did, but I would have to learn fast if my family depended on it. And really, there are many countries now where life is still like that and women work harder than we could ever do.

Yes there are men who do this work; stay at home dads who are better at keeping house than their wives. Those men are rare and admirable. But for the most part, Woman's Work is carried out by women and honestly without it being done that way... absolutely nothing would get accomplished.

We all know men aren't too bright sometimes. What would they do without us?

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 1:59 PM *applauds* Because they don't want to, either. I don't deal with that part, but I know it's typical for most men. I don't let Hubbie do anything but empty the dishwasher and mop the floor, even tho He asks to do more. I just prefer doing the rest myself and love to do it. Great post, momma!

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 2:00 PM

Haha. I like this post. I do have a wonderful man, though. We both work, both military. He is always thanking me for how much I get done around the house. He tries to help, but most of the time I think he can ignore the mess. Me, it drives me crazy. I can't even get into a good mood with a messy house. He is wonderful, though, in the fact that 1) he appreciates every single thing I do, 2) he cooks almost every evening and 3) he volunteers to take the kids on his days off and on weekends when I want to get out for a while. I have a friend who's husband freaks when his wife leaves for the store for an hour. He'll call and tell her to hurry up. She was flabbergasted that mine actually stayed with mine repeatedely when I had to work, but he didn't. He loves spending time with his boys.

Multi-tasking, though, that's my deal and he knows it.

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 2:06 PM

My husband fully admits that if he had to stay home all day and do what I do, nothing would get done.  Nothing.

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 2:06 PM

Balance...It's the way of things. I think men and women are equally capable of doing their equally important, equally challenging duties. I could never, ever do what my husband does and I don't think he'd be able to do what I do. The harmony of our relationship is dependent on our mutual respect and performing in our roles to the best of our ability :)


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Apr. 27, 2009 at 2:13 PM

This is why I wish I had a wife!

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 2:22 PM

Cook, clean, run errands,  keep the kids from killing eachother/themselves and still have the energy to work on a new baby? Whew!

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 2:22 PM

I say we all go on strike for a day. See how well the men could fair if we all just put our feet up and said eff this! It makes me giggle to think of the mayhem this could cause!

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 2:28 PM

I love it!!! its so true too. My DH hates dishes and would rather eat out than cook when hes tired. Plus like another poster said, he complains he would get so much done if he was home all day but when hes home and cares for DD for a few hours he complains he gets nothing done. I tell him all the time he couldn't handle being at home all day and doing huse work and laundry and the errands and pay bills and caring for DD of course...hes a busy body but can't do the same things everyday!!!

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 2:36 PM

Lol!! Thank you!

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 2:42 PM

I don't know if any of you ladies have ever refinished a hardwood floor, but i just finished that and repainting the living-room and buying new furniture ( to shut my DH up about how sucky our stuff looked). I told him I would send him a pic (he is out of state 2500 miles away forlast 2 1/2 months) when I am done. I still had the blinds to wash and hang back up. That was all he really had a comment about. almost 5 days worth of hard work that didn't end til7:30 pm when I would start at 6 am, and forget to eat cause I was so busy. He notices that I have not hung up the fricking blinds. I won't be doing that again. I hate that the most. Being a women, mom, and wife SUCK!! It is the most ungrateful thing in life!!!

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