Throughout time, men have disdained to do the household drudgery and menial tasks that women do every day, with the dismissive declaration that it is "woman's work." This is to give the impression that they are too important to waste time doing work that is beneath them and that it is the role of a woman to ceaselessly do these jobs.

This is a common theme in many civilizations. Household work, food preparation, endless cleaning, sewing, care of children, and basic structure to the rhythms of life--these are the tasks of women. I think about this a lot and I have come to the conclusion that the reason it is woman's work is because men could never do it.  Day in and day out, over and over and over, we perform the tasks to keep our families moving along and our homes happy and healthy. Men rarely have the stamina, self-motivation, or selfless resolve to match a woman. Men could never keep the world running like we do.

That is why it's Woman's Work. Men have managed over the centuries to keep women in their place by giving the impression that a woman's job is less valuable, when in fact is it the most important job there is. We all know a woman's power can be threatening to a man, which is why we see so much misogyny in so many religions and cultures. What is a woman's power? The ability to do work. And truthfully, we can outwork most any man. 

Think about how much work you do. Then think about how much work women used to do in times past without modern technology to help them along. Imagine making ALL your family's clothes by hand. Imagine raising, harvesting and preserving ALL your family's food. And imagine doing this with a dozen children. I don't think I could do half as much as they did, but I would have to learn fast if my family depended on it. And really, there are many countries now where life is still like that and women work harder than we could ever do.

Yes there are men who do this work; stay at home dads who are better at keeping house than their wives. Those men are rare and admirable. But for the most part, Woman's Work is carried out by women and honestly without it being done that way... absolutely nothing would get accomplished.

We all know men aren't too bright sometimes. What would they do without us?

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 3:05 PM

I am actually currently on strike. I told DH yesterday afternoon that I am going to do what he does, and sit on my computer all day long. He can do everything I do on a normal basis. I'll get off of my strike the first day he can do it all like I do. I told him that too. So, let's see how long this takes.

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 4:01 PM

giving mom giftI love my "women's work", but I hear ya girl!!  At least my husband appreciates my efforts.  I know plenty that don't. 

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 4:08 PM

Could you imagine if a man had to run the house and take care of the kids? All hell would break loose!!

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 5:16 PM

Apr. 27, 2009 at 1:13 PM

This is why I wish I had a wife! ~quiteside

  my thoughts exactly! (or a maid, cook, butler, secretary and launderer)

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 5:19 PM

My husband figured out he had it pretty good when I had surgery last fall and he had to do it all himself.  I think he needs a little refresher course, though because he's starting to take me for granted again.

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 5:21 PM

Who is smarter...them for convincing us that it is our work?  Or us being guilted into it?

We split all work up in my house.  There is no women's work or men's work here.

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 5:35 PM Hubs does the dishes and the laundry. He is the man! I don't believe in woman's work, my grandfather does it all too. That's probably why i found a man that could, too.

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 6:08 PM

Your post is beautiful, just lovely and the truth! Thanks you made my day.

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 6:34 PM

Great post.  Finally a way to think about "woman's work" without feeling the statement is a put down.  This journal post is a way to raise up us woman and give us a since of pride.  To often when doing the jobs no one else will do I've felt like the slave.  From now on I will remember this journal post and hold my head high! TYgood

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 6:40 PM

Just a question for all the women who replied.... if someone told you that something was "man's work", would you be offended?  I know plenty that would, but think this is just fine. 

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