Throughout time, men have disdained to do the household drudgery and menial tasks that women do every day, with the dismissive declaration that it is "woman's work." This is to give the impression that they are too important to waste time doing work that is beneath them and that it is the role of a woman to ceaselessly do these jobs.

This is a common theme in many civilizations. Household work, food preparation, endless cleaning, sewing, care of children, and basic structure to the rhythms of life--these are the tasks of women. I think about this a lot and I have come to the conclusion that the reason it is woman's work is because men could never do it.  Day in and day out, over and over and over, we perform the tasks to keep our families moving along and our homes happy and healthy. Men rarely have the stamina, self-motivation, or selfless resolve to match a woman. Men could never keep the world running like we do.

That is why it's Woman's Work. Men have managed over the centuries to keep women in their place by giving the impression that a woman's job is less valuable, when in fact is it the most important job there is. We all know a woman's power can be threatening to a man, which is why we see so much misogyny in so many religions and cultures. What is a woman's power? The ability to do work. And truthfully, we can outwork most any man. 

Think about how much work you do. Then think about how much work women used to do in times past without modern technology to help them along. Imagine making ALL your family's clothes by hand. Imagine raising, harvesting and preserving ALL your family's food. And imagine doing this with a dozen children. I don't think I could do half as much as they did, but I would have to learn fast if my family depended on it. And really, there are many countries now where life is still like that and women work harder than we could ever do.

Yes there are men who do this work; stay at home dads who are better at keeping house than their wives. Those men are rare and admirable. But for the most part, Woman's Work is carried out by women and honestly without it being done that way... absolutely nothing would get accomplished.

We all know men aren't too bright sometimes. What would they do without us?

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truth...
Apr. 27, 2009 at 6:51 PM

Hahaha. So true. When my hubby got laid off and I went to work last year (before we lost our house) He couldn't keep it clean to save his soul. It was clean once, with a friends help, and his idea of clean was to move everything he didn't knows home or didn't use into the spare bedroom, which became a pig stye. But he still, even now, says I had it easier because our son wasn't as active or into anything, he was still little and mostly immobile. *eyeroll*

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ThaMCE
Apr. 27, 2009 at 7:42 PM I'm on strike too, Kenre. I'd like to see him do what I do with my current morning sickness, taking care of my 9 year old and 18 month old. He ALSO depends on me to do the "man's" work. Who do you think puts together everything we get from Ikea?! Mostly me. When it comes to killing bugs, it's me. He can't do anything without me, basically, and that's OK.

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ap.sahm
Apr. 27, 2009 at 8:08 PM

this journal is too funny, and too true!

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auror...
Apr. 27, 2009 at 8:22 PM

I agree with you 110% Joye!

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kbear
Apr. 27, 2009 at 8:32 PM

my hubby will do it from time to time, and when he does it is a big help But.. yep there is a but, he still ask's me what i do all day or why something is not done. I tired to explain to him try doing it every day all day even in the middle of the night,. we stay up late and  I still get up at 2 or 3 or 4 in the morning and take care of jt when he wakes up bc of a bad dream or does not feel good, while i let him sleep.

or he likes to pull the well i get up and and work all day, o that gets me going, just bc you leave the house to go to work does not mean the work i do is any less bc i stay home

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straw...
Apr. 27, 2009 at 8:39 PM

This is such a great journal!

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Smile...
Apr. 27, 2009 at 8:47 PM

Well said.....it's all very true indeed!! Not to forget the 'multi-task' part that women can do very well. 

Have a great day!

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momof...
Apr. 27, 2009 at 8:58 PM

I agree 100%. My husband would fall apart if he had to do all that I do in 1 day. He wouldn't handle it at all. Sure, he's ok for a day here and a day there (as long as I come home to clean up the mess) but all day, everyday... he'd lose it. He used to say "I can do a better job than you keeping the house clean and the kids happy and I wouldn't be half as tired as you are at the end of it." Uh huh. Then I had to leave for 3 days and 3 nights. He only had the 1 child (the baby and my oldest stayed with my MIL) and my mom to help him! The house was a disaster when I came home! My mom was here to help, not do it all for him! He tried to pull that "I can do it..." line about 2 weeks after I came home and I gently reminded him of what all I came home to after I had been out of town. He shut up pretty quickly and hasn't tried it since. I still don't get much appreciation for what I do in the house though (occassionally I will get a "the house looks nice" but that's pretty rare).

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logan...
Apr. 27, 2009 at 9:30 PM

My husband has been bugging me to be a stay at home dad.  After Kimberleee's journal a while back I quickly learned that most men do not have the motivation in them to keep up with the daily tasks.  Heck, Danny proves it to me everyday!  He would rather watch sports than live in a clean house.

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emf6874
Apr. 27, 2009 at 9:56 PM

I've been on "strike" for about a week now. I was getting extremely tired of cleaning up after him...I'm not working right now, but he doesn't work all winter (he's a landscaper)...even when we were both working I was still the one cleaning, cooking, doing the laundry, & the groceries!!!

I haven't cooked, or touched a thing in the kitchen for a week!!! It's killing me to see it like that, but OH WELL!!

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