Throughout time, men have disdained to do the household drudgery and menial tasks that women do every day, with the dismissive declaration that it is "woman's work." This is to give the impression that they are too important to waste time doing work that is beneath them and that it is the role of a woman to ceaselessly do these jobs.

This is a common theme in many civilizations. Household work, food preparation, endless cleaning, sewing, care of children, and basic structure to the rhythms of life--these are the tasks of women. I think about this a lot and I have come to the conclusion that the reason it is woman's work is because men could never do it.  Day in and day out, over and over and over, we perform the tasks to keep our families moving along and our homes happy and healthy. Men rarely have the stamina, self-motivation, or selfless resolve to match a woman. Men could never keep the world running like we do.

That is why it's Woman's Work. Men have managed over the centuries to keep women in their place by giving the impression that a woman's job is less valuable, when in fact is it the most important job there is. We all know a woman's power can be threatening to a man, which is why we see so much misogyny in so many religions and cultures. What is a woman's power? The ability to do work. And truthfully, we can outwork most any man. 

Think about how much work you do. Then think about how much work women used to do in times past without modern technology to help them along. Imagine making ALL your family's clothes by hand. Imagine raising, harvesting and preserving ALL your family's food. And imagine doing this with a dozen children. I don't think I could do half as much as they did, but I would have to learn fast if my family depended on it. And really, there are many countries now where life is still like that and women work harder than we could ever do.

Yes there are men who do this work; stay at home dads who are better at keeping house than their wives. Those men are rare and admirable. But for the most part, Woman's Work is carried out by women and honestly without it being done that way... absolutely nothing would get accomplished.

We all know men aren't too bright sometimes. What would they do without us?

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 10:16 PM

I LOVE this journal!!!

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 10:24 PM

Great post Joye, and thankyou!  I was just venting about this same thing, and I needed to see this.  Now when I am cleaning, rather than being upset with my DH, I can secretly be chuckling, knowing that I am doing something he could never do!

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 10:40 PM

LOOOOOVE THIS!!!!!!  Here is Me!

sweepingdoing laundryironingwashing dishesapronteacherWhere is the Husband in Recliner Sweet Pea????

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 11:34 PM

Ain't that all the truth!  Men just can't do it....but they will never admit that....

I've always thought women have more on their plate than men.  Always.  Whether they're a SAHM or if they're employed outside the home, women do more, and we do it better.

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Apr. 27, 2009 at 11:46 PM

I can’t bitch. I have a hubby that does almost all the cooking ( I hate to cook ) he does some laundry and dishes and he helps out a lot with the baby. I know he is a rear one though.

Heck today alone he made breakfast, changed the baby a few times, cleared a spot for a garden and made dinner and is right now cleaning the carpets in my office/ baby’s playroom

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Apr. 28, 2009 at 12:03 AM

I will say this, my husband helps me a lot. Especially lately since I've been dealing with some medical stuff. But if it weren't for me, the girls would be disgustingly dirty, would never be on time or dressed correctly to anything, would drink juice non-stop all day long, and would never be in bed on time. LOL And don't get me started on the grocery shopping. =)

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Apr. 28, 2009 at 12:40 AM

I know lots of men who keep their home spotless. Notice I say men here. Young men neglect the things like the refridgerator. I am a stay at home mom and I would much rather be doing housework than any other type of work except for being self employed or a business owner. I know lots of women who love doing their housework and do it with pride. Maybe that is why it is so common. Plenty of men are capapble of doing housework. I feel it is my job to do the housework while my husband pays the bills. Everyone needs to do their part. Of course he helps out though. Housework and raising kids is a 24 hour job, it doesn't end at 5.  If both the man and the woman work than both should do equal amounts of housework.  If one stays at home they should do a good 70% of housework. This is just my personal opinion.

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Apr. 28, 2009 at 2:27 AM

I refused to be the *maid* when we both were working so if hubby wouldn't do housework- neither did I... lol it took YEARS and living in close to filth for a while but he now participates in the household!!! I didn't nag or complain (ok not much!!) just rewarded effort with what I knew would be his favorite reward!! LOL



So it worked out ok for me too!!! lol and it has greatly improved our marriage. And while not clean... it is no longer dirrrrty. LMAO

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Apr. 28, 2009 at 8:50 AM

My husband has admitted that he cannot do what I do.  He honestly tries to help out as much as possible.  On the few ocassions that I have managed to leave the house without the kids, he usually calls me and asks, "When are you coming home?"  God bless him.  Men just aren't cut out to be moms. 


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Apr. 28, 2009 at 8:52 AM Amen to that! Great post! :)

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