Throughout time, men have disdained to do the household drudgery and menial tasks that women do every day, with the dismissive declaration that it is "woman's work." This is to give the impression that they are too important to waste time doing work that is beneath them and that it is the role of a woman to ceaselessly do these jobs.

This is a common theme in many civilizations. Household work, food preparation, endless cleaning, sewing, care of children, and basic structure to the rhythms of life--these are the tasks of women. I think about this a lot and I have come to the conclusion that the reason it is woman's work is because men could never do it.  Day in and day out, over and over and over, we perform the tasks to keep our families moving along and our homes happy and healthy. Men rarely have the stamina, self-motivation, or selfless resolve to match a woman. Men could never keep the world running like we do.

That is why it's Woman's Work. Men have managed over the centuries to keep women in their place by giving the impression that a woman's job is less valuable, when in fact is it the most important job there is. We all know a woman's power can be threatening to a man, which is why we see so much misogyny in so many religions and cultures. What is a woman's power? The ability to do work. And truthfully, we can outwork most any man. 

Think about how much work you do. Then think about how much work women used to do in times past without modern technology to help them along. Imagine making ALL your family's clothes by hand. Imagine raising, harvesting and preserving ALL your family's food. And imagine doing this with a dozen children. I don't think I could do half as much as they did, but I would have to learn fast if my family depended on it. And really, there are many countries now where life is still like that and women work harder than we could ever do.

Yes there are men who do this work; stay at home dads who are better at keeping house than their wives. Those men are rare and admirable. But for the most part, Woman's Work is carried out by women and honestly without it being done that way... absolutely nothing would get accomplished.

We all know men aren't too bright sometimes. What would they do without us?

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Beths...
Apr. 28, 2009 at 2:19 PM

Personally, I think it all boils down to your expectations.  We all have the potential to create a lazy monster when we get married and wait on our husbands hand and foot. I'm not saying I don't try to take good care of mine, but marriage is about taking care of EACH OTHER and if my husband expected me to be June Cleaver even when I have a raging migraine, he would have starved to death the first year of our marriage. IMO, there's no excuse for a man not to be able to at least  make a pot of spaghetti or some scrambled eggs or a grilled cheese sandwich, or be able to  push a vacuum cleaner or wash a load of laundry, when their wife is sick or hurt or even just needs a break. What do these helpless men do when their wife is in the hospital having a baby, or on bed rest or her father has cancer and she needs to be there with him? If you get hungry enough and run out of clean clothes, you'll figure it out.

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zen2007
Apr. 28, 2009 at 2:57 PM

YOU ARE RIGHT, MOST MEN CAN DO ANYTHING FOR HIM SELF.

WE TAKE CARE OF THE KIDS  WORK, THAN GO HOME COOK AND WORK SOME MORE.

IS LIKE OUR JOB IS NEVER DONE.

SO THIS IS TO ALL THE SEXY BEAUTIFUL MOM THAT DON'T GET A CHANCE TO ENJOY LIFEyou rock

  

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ladys...
Apr. 28, 2009 at 4:17 PM

Great post I found it being shared on facebook and followed it here.  I left my comments over there.  Let me copy and paste it here too.....

 

I dont think all men can, most men cant but my hubby can. He used to be a SAHD for a little while. He can cook, clean, take care of baby (who is now 3) etc. The only 2 gripes I have is not really thinking about the time (time to eat, time to potty, etc) and he chooses the weirdest clothes of her to make strange lookin outfits!! lol

 

Voted popular!!

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Roxan...
Apr. 28, 2009 at 4:20 PM

So very true!  :-)

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milmi...
Apr. 28, 2009 at 5:32 PM

I really could not have said this better myself.  I am in complete agreement with you and feel the same way about it all. 

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momne...
Apr. 28, 2009 at 5:38 PM

For myself, I don't mind having all the "woman's work" to do...because I sure as heck don't want to do any of Husband's "man's work"!!!!

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Homes...
Apr. 28, 2009 at 6:19 PM

What makes me mad is my DH says that he is too tired to help me clean! OMG my father worked two jobs and was a single dad! I never once heard him say he was tired! Great post!

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meNmine
Apr. 28, 2009 at 8:41 PM

Great post!

What cracks me up is when my husband scoffs about how much he would get done if he were home all day, then when he has the kids for two hours the only thing that gets done is that the kids stay alive.clairandamjones

Same thing happens here.

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me-n-...
Apr. 28, 2009 at 11:05 PM

wonderfully worded post........what I've been saying for a long time----wayyyy better than I could ever put it------and the hard core TRUTH

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tazce...
Apr. 28, 2009 at 11:16 PM

So true!

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