In-law problems....

[jcrp2005]

Ok, sorry to vent about this, but I need to let it out...My mother-in-law and sister-in-law are total bitches (sorry). Last year, they almost split my now dh up because they were being super mean to me when he was at work, and when I would tell him about it and he'd confront them, they would lie and make me out to look stupid and mean. Well, he finally caught them doing it one day before he went to work. They thought he was gone already and he wasn't.

Well, its started again. My mil and sil want to see our son every weekend, or they did. This weekend, we called to see if they wanted him for the night, and they said no....well, Sunday, I tried to go over there to get my son and I's birth certificates (dh moved up here first and had them in his stuff, and some of it is still at his moms house). Sil answered the phone, and she's like, no you can't come over. Whatever....pissed me off, but I just went about my day. Today, I call and mil answers the phone. She's like, sure come on over. Not even 5 minutes later, she calls back and says that she can just look through the box of stuff.....the box is huge and supposedly she looked through it in 2 minutes, if that....I know she didn't even touch it. She says, its not here, no use in wasting your time coming over. I KNOW its over there because I've torn our apartment upside down and its nowhere in sight. I think she has them hid, she's just that kind of person. she's stolen important stuff from me before.

Anyway, I call my dh in tears because I'm so tired of this...I have to have copies of the bc's mailed to my case worker by friday, or I lose my ins and she won't even let me come over to look. Well, dh calls his mom and supposedly he "had a talk" with her about it. She lied and said she told me to come over...and then she made herself look sweet and innocent by saying that she called me several times in the past week asking if ds and I wanted to go to lunch with her.....she never called ONCE!!! So, needless to say, dh calls me and questions me about the lunch thing. I told him she never called.

They only want to see ds when its convenient for them now. Other than that, he and I are not allowed at their house...even to look for something that shouldn't be in her possession in the first place....I told dh that ds will NOT be going back over there....since he's only a convenience visit......Do you think I'm wrong in saying that?

And....I found out a week or so ago that mil told dh that he made the worst mistake of his life by getting me pregnant....not once, but twice (i'm prego with #2 now).....wth? When he told her I was prego with ds, all she said was "are you sure its yours?"....She didn't even have the decency to come to Ohio from PA to be there when he was born...she had 4 days notice because I was in the hospital with pre-eclampsia and they said it would probably be that week that he was born....her excuse was that she had to work, and didn't even have a job at the time.....

So, I told dh that she will NOT know the day this baby is born because I don't need the hassle of her being there and causing problems. We are having a scheduled c/s because that is what the dr thinks is best since I didn't dilate past 2cm with ds and had to have a c/s anyway.

Ok, I think I'm done now.....I'm just so mad.....and upset. I only moved back to Ohio because she said that she would straighten up her act and stay out of our business....that lasted ALMOST a month....I've been here almost 3 months and my life is a living hell again......I just don't know what to do.

[Tickledtrauma]

Apr. 28, 2009 at 1:08 AM

You should not care about such a mean person. Yes it is your husbands mother but sometime parents can be messed up! The only person you need to worry about is your husband. As long as he loves you everything is fine. From the sounds of it he is on your side. Yes part your family from her as much as possible. You do not need destruction like that in your life. Hurt people hurt people. Your mil is unhappy and wants the same for others. It's a vicous cycle and your probably not the only person she hassles. Don't even care what she thinks. Focus on your husband and making your marriage strong. Any time you mil gets you down just go make love to your man and you might just feel untouchable.

[Tanya12]

Apr. 28, 2009 at 4:40 AM

Go to the vital records office in your town and just get a copy of you and your husbands bc! Your husband might have to go down and get his himself but its simple and I think it costs just a few bucks. I finally went down and got my sons when he was like 3months(cause I procrastinate lol) and while I was there I just got mine as well. Should just take a few minutes, I went there and waited, then paid and 10minutes later left with our documents.

Your mil and sil are just bitches! Dont let them get to u in ur sensitive prego state! Say what they want but hes YOUR husband! You have that expensive rock on your finger and another beautiful one of his babies in your tummy and there is nothing they can do about it..try as they might! If its a cell phone shes allegedly calling then just print records to show she didnt call..maybe u can even contact ur phone copy and get those.

The will try anthing but it just shows how pathetic their life is. Just love your hubby, and your precious babies and try to be civil..which I know you do. If they want to treat u like shit then thats their problem and there will be consequences, like not seeing your little one and your husband being pissed and annoyed with them. Just play it off like the last time they had a fit and hopefully it will pass.

Best of luck..remember..no stressing!