Why are so many men out there jerks?

[stephanie325]

So my youngest sons father has been staying with me and the kids for a while because his power is out at his house. I've been trying so hard just to get some help from him. Wether it be financially, or emotionally, or actually just playing with the kids or something. Well He still wants to kiss on me and stuff and tell me he loves me, but not be in a relationship with me. He showed up at my house at 1:30 A.M from work. He was waisted. I asked where he had been because I had called his work about 45 minutes before he got here, and they said he left a while ago. I asked him where he was, and he just kept saying he was at work. Well about a half hour after he got here, he passed out on my living room floor. I went through his pants pocket, and found his clockout stub, which said that he got off of work at 9:30 P.M. I just dont get it. I am having such a hard time as it is, and he could care less. He has bought his three month old 1 outfit since he has been born. And 1 thing of formula. Thats it. Life is just so unfair sometimes. He is already paying child support for 2 other children, from 2 other women. It's my fault though. I should have known better. I was blessed with a beautiful son from him, but I think that it is probably time to fill out the child support papers, and tell him to go home and move on. I don't know. Life can be so confusing sometimes.  I wonder if I should just send him home and get child support. What do all of you think?Im sorry if this isnt the kind of things talked about on here, and am very new at this.

[MSugarKane]

Apr. 29, 2009 at 8:15 AM

You can't fix someone that won't fix themselves.  Its time for tough love, file for child support and at the same time file for visitation that is monitered by someone.   If he pays child support he has the right to visit with the child and take the child on his days.  If you think there is any possiblity he will be drug induced or drunk make a decision now if you really need his child support money and if you can prove the child has to be supervised when in his care if you do go for child support.

Good luck.   Think of your child first and your child's needs.  Then make a decision and stick to it.  Don't flip flop with your child's life.