Hmmm! Don't really know WHAT to do here...need advice!

[ladyk99]

My past friend f rom high school who graduated before me and I had gotten to hang with before I left my home state of Northern California..has located me on facebook!

I have been avoiding her..since her mom and she seemed to be using me or something..I am not sure what's really happening with her...but, I seriously believe that she is living in a not comfortable environment with her mom..and plus she isn't well, and I think that she also uses this excuse to stay with her mother...(not that I cannot be an understanding person here..because I can..but, it's too long to get into the whole story)!

But, she has attached me to her by saying that she is my friend on facebook..and while I do think that she is a good person...I just do NOT want to get caught up in the "DRAMA" life that I started to when she and her mom were using me for my  car..and other things..I just do not feel great about that.

(I figure to leave her alone..and NOT add her as my friend..but, I also start feeling extreme guilt and pity that she is living the life that she is now.

I know that some people are avoiding her...because of things that she has said and so far...(What should I do here? I DO feel for her..but, at the same time..I do NOT want to get dragged into her dramatic and toxic life..should I just totally ignore the friendship request...and act as if I no longer hear her?)

What would you do? I feel terrible..but, at the same time..I have avoided her since about 2005 or 2004.

What  should I do? Any  great words of wisdom here?

 

I really could use some advice. I can't ask this on facebook...she is there..and she would know that I was talking about her!!

 

(I feel badly about this situation..and originally, a former close friend of mine(who is also on facebook) at the time of our friendship..told me(after I described the friendship to her at  the time) that I should never  speak to her again..and that if I thought that I was getting "used"..that I probably was and that I should just NOT bother with her at  all!!

Help please!!!

Thank you!!

 

 

ladyk99

[greentreeorchid]

Apr. 30, 2009 at 3:26 AM this may seem selfish... but think about you and whats yours (family) and how a renewed friendship with this person would affect them and you... can you "save" her by adding her ... are you really ready to take on that type of relationship... i'm just saying...
good luck and hope it all goes well

[arlschulz]

Apr. 30, 2009 at 3:30 AM

If you feel like your being used, just ignore her request.  One thing great with facebook (I'm on it also), sometimes the friend requests never gets sent to the person being asked to be a "friend".  Hit ignore, it won't get back to her, and when she trys to send it again, facebook will just tell her that a request was already sent.  Act like you never got it and since you haven't seen nor talk to each other for awhile, she'll never know.  Don't sweat it...it's just a request.

[Stickmom]

Apr. 30, 2009 at 8:19 AM

Ignore it. Some people in life are meant to be acquaintances...not friends. You've had a bad experience once with her...why go through that again, you know?