Day 27 - Love encourages...

[jennmom1]

Day 27 - Love encourages...

Guard my soul and deliver me; do not let me be ashamed, for I take refuge in You. - Psalm 25:20

Today I was supposed to eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectations. I am supposed to think of an area here my husband has told me that I am expecting too much and tell him that I'm sorry and then promise to seek to understand and assure them of my love.

This was hard because I think we often feel justified in most of our actions. It can sometimes be hard to see another's point of view. I had to "dig deep" here and really be honest with myself. I am often a control freak. I want all of our money accounted for, I want the house spotless, I like to make lists and stick to them and I love to plan out everything. I know that must get irritating. It's part of who I am, but, I need to relax a little bit.

My husband has always been really bad with our money. Often times I couldn't account for where money had been spent because he would just spend it and I would never get a receipt. I am constantly on him about money. I know that it bothers him and, in fact, I think my constant nagging about it probably makes the problem worse. I told him today that I was sorry for always getting on him about the finances and that I am going to relax a bit. He told me that it was okay and that I shouldn't apologize because he knows that he's bad with our money. I still need to relax some and I was glad that we talked about it.

I need to remember that I have bad habits too, I have not-so-nice qualities as well. I am not all sunshine and roses and if I want people to be able to look past those things and see who I really am then I need to do the same.

[twinsplus2more]

Apr. 30, 2009 at 4:17 PM

Another great post.

[bfm11107]

Apr. 30, 2009 at 5:05 PM

[onyourterms]

Apr. 30, 2009 at 5:13 PM

Very true, I think that we often forget that we haev otu down points as well, adn play the blame game... I am learning more and more about me through your posts...

[Maheli]

May. 1, 2009 at 1:31 AM

It's good to recognize ourselves and become better people

[mom2-2crazyboys]

May. 2, 2009 at 7:18 PM

wow..it would take me a LONG time to think of everything I over-expected from my husband  (poor guy)! This is a hard area..you guys did great! Money is a very, very difficult area in relationships..no matter how long you have been together. Prayers.