MIL- UGH!! a vent

[BusyBeesmom]

So every single Sunday we go to eat at my in-laws house, not by our choice. My hubby doesn't like to go either, but they have been helping us out money wise so we feel obligated, and trust me they  make us feel that way. So anyway, today Mil was a major b**ch for no reason. Well next Sunday is of course Mothers day, we have always spent it with his parnets becaus it is on a Sunday, well my sister and I are planning a mothers day meal for my mom this year, a family thing, anyway, I know when we tell my mil that we will have to celebrate on Saturday she is going to flip or just stop talking to us, which wont bother me but will my dh. I really hate feeling like I owe them anything and I hate that she makes it such a big deal, but my Dad died in 2005 and since then my in-laws act like I don't have parents, so this year I am doing something for my mom and me. If mil doesn't like it to bad! I am done with them acting that way. They don't even act like they are excited about this new baby who will be here in 18 days by ther way. They have only mentioned her in passing and act like we are stupid for having another baby. I know one thing for sure if they treat her any different then her sisiters they just wont see any of them. I already told my dh that after I come home from the hospital this time I am not going to their house until I feel ready, last time was to soon after a c-section, if they want to see us and eat with us they can come her to my "messy" house. Well thats it I am done venting for now I think.

[BeaMoore]

May. 3, 2009 at 6:12 PM

Oh brother, they sound like Raymond's parents, in "Everybody Loves Raymond" . Uber dysfunction.

You do need to put your Mom first and spend time with her like you said.

I don't have mother in law, and she never knew me anyway, she had Alzheimer's all the time I have been married to my husband, also soon-to-be-ex.  I just feel lucky I have never had to deal with all this family stuff.

Sweetie, vent as much as you want.

And hang in there.

Congrats on the new baby.

Love, Bea

[armywife0107]

May. 25, 2009 at 3:26 PM

I have a horrible MIL as well. Mine thinks the world revolves around her & goes crazy if she is shown otherwise. I have no advice because I can't even figure out what to do about mine- lol- but I have to say good job for spending time with your mom. For that to upset the MIL is silly... and sad.

Congrats on the new little one!! I am due in October! So exciting!!