PLEASE HELP!!!

[hnv85]

My DS Lance will be 4 on June 27th and for the past month or two he has not been listening to me very much. He gets really mad if he doesn't like what I tell him, don't let him do what he wants, etc. I mean he will scream, yell and just keep repeating what he wants. I can almost never get him to be quiet...He is so loud! He likes to act out movies and sing but when he does it he screams it..I know he can hear fine and he just does it to get attention. I wouldn't mind if it was once in a while and he would actually stop when I tell him to. It's like he's fine and perfect when he's doing what he wants but when it's time to eat and he doesn't want to or doesn't like what we are eating at that time, why does he have to be such a butt? I have to discipline him and tell him not to do things like every 5 seconds if not every 2. I am so worn out! I have another son I have to raise andI know he doesn't like hearing Lance's never ending WHINING!!!!!!! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!

 He won't stand in the corner, he will scream forever, beat the wall not stay in place so I stick him in his room or strap him in his brother's booster seat (that's only when it's really bad) so he can't get out for the 5 minutes. What else am I supposed to do? I want my son to listen to me and not because he thinks I am being mean because I'm not, but because I care about him & I am trying to keep him safe and teach/raise him to be a good man.

All I know to do and what I have been doing is being consistent. I just hope it works in the end or else that would suck ass and I have no help or advice from anyone. I know the last 4 years haven't been perfect for us and a little rough but I put my everything into being the best mom I can be and wish I could make things different. It's so frustrating when I try so hard and it seems there are more rough times then good. He gives me such a hard time so much that I feel guilty that I am not a good mother and I always question what I am doing with him & his brother. Is it good enough? Am I doing it right? Is this a normal stage for him to be going thru?

[MrsBirks]

May. 4, 2009 at 3:14 PM

Yep my son turned 4 in January and he is also in this phase!! Its nice to know that i am not alone in all of this.  If you need to vent, just pm me and we can swap notes hun xxx

[MSugarKane]

May. 4, 2009 at 3:27 PM

Yep! You described my four year old grandson to a tee.  Just stay consistant.  Follow through with consequences. 

Also try to give him choices , for example instead of asking him to get dressed, ask him if he wants to wear this outfit or that outfit.  Thats just an example but you can use it with everything. 4 year olds like to think they are 'in charge'.  So giving them choices gives them control they think they have.

Good luck!

[MrsBirks]

May. 4, 2009 at 3:31 PM

Think i will be taking your advice too MSugarKane!! Always thought boys were easier than girls (i have a 6 year old girl too) but that theory has just been blown out of the water lol xx

[Trajik003]

May. 4, 2009 at 5:04 PM

Most days I deal with this almost exactly. My son will be 3 in October and he is such a little back-talker. It's like everything I tell him he has a smart comment back to me. I thought that only happened when they are teenagers!! haha But then he can turn around and be the biggest sweetheart. I think what makes it so frustrating is that he KNOWS how to be good but sometimes just chooses to do the opposite. Good luck hun and please know that you are not alone!

[sheilanaz4]

May. 6, 2009 at 3:00 PM

totally normal girl. my daughters do some what the same things and i get to where i wna rip my freaking hair out. your doing fine just be consistant to one or two disapline acts ans he will get the picture eventually.