How I feel

[Punkypie2]

Please, don't ask us if we're over "it" yet.

We'll never be over it.

Please, don't tell us they're in a better place.

They aren't with us.

Please, don't say, "At least they aren't suffering."

We haven't come to terms with why they had to suffer at all.

Please, don't tell us you know how we feel unless you have lost a child.

Please, don't ask us if we feel better.

Bereavement isn't a condition that clears up.

Please, don't tell us, "At least you had them for a time."

What year would you choose for your child to die?

Please, don't tell us, "God never gives you more than you can bear."

Please, just tell us you are sorry.

Please, just say you remember our children, if you do.

Please, just let us talk about our children.

Please, mention our children's names.

Please, just let us cry.

[autiemommy2]

May. 6, 2009 at 12:12 AM

well said!!!!! sorry for your loss....

[kellymarie119]

May. 6, 2009 at 12:53 AM

this is so beautiful! I totally understand what you are saying and I truly mean that I went into premature labor at 19 weeks stayed in the hospital for a week and had my beautiful baby girl at 20 weeks and 2 days You have just said perfectly everything I have been thinking.  Ironically my baby girls name is also Olivia it is Olivia Kendra you and your angel are in my thoughts and may she watch over you always and help you through this time as I hope my angel will do for me also

[myrtlebeach]

May. 6, 2009 at 6:17 AM

very well said

 

[DianaRo42]

May. 14, 2009 at 6:15 PM

That is so beautiful and well said. All my feelings with both my loses are expressed! Thank You.

Hugs, DianaRo42

[sallymoon]

May. 17, 2009 at 3:58 AM

I am sorry for your loss.  There were times I wanted to tattoo this on my forehead.  I hated it when people would try to find a silver lining to my loss(es) or trivialize my grief.