Husband Ranting

[coffeefirst]

My husband is currently getting on my very, very last nerve. It is very possible that I just need to be more patient. I mean, after all, he is a man. He can't help it, right? I should focus on his positive traits and all the good things he does for our family everyday and realize how fortunate  I am to have a husband who works so hard. I should do all that. But I'm not. 

I like a lot of positive feedback from my husband. Yes, that probably makes me kind of needy, but I know what I like! Sunday when I worked really hard on the cake and the birthday party, I kept asking him if everything was good. I wanted a pat on the back! He never gave me more than a "Fine, it's fine". Gee, I could have grabbed a stranger off the street for that reaction.

You know how you're supposed to treat your spouse the way you want to be treated? I so do that! I compliment him when he looks nice and praise him when he does something well. I do little things for him to show him I care about him and value him. You may be thinking, "You should just tell him how you feel". I do that! He knows how I feel inside and out. I'm thinking that he either just doesn't care or is incredibly dense for such a smart man.  Yesterday I said to him, "Gee hun, when you talk to me like that I start to think of you in the past tense." Is that not clear enough?

 

[NannyB.]

May. 6, 2009 at 8:59 AM

It sounds to me like you two speak different love languages.  Ever read that book?  THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES by Dr. Gary Chapman.  Yours seems to be words of affirmation.  His is probably something else.  You are speaking to him what you want to hear, but he's not getting the message.  I think the book might help clarify!

[ShutterbugMama]

May. 6, 2009 at 9:02 AM

If he didnt speak at all, he might be perfect.

[kimberleee382]

May. 6, 2009 at 1:22 PM

You know what you gotta do??? 

You gotta throw him up against a wall and rape him violently.

[kimberleee382]

May. 6, 2009 at 1:22 PM

Sorry...  I'm insatiably horny for some reason.  I can't stop thinking about wild, frantic, angry, sex.

 

[Rachael]

May. 6, 2009 at 1:29 PM

okay so stop doing all the sweet things he takes for granted and see how long it takes him to miss his loving wife.  men need those affirmations just as much as women and I do not think he will get it until he is not gettin it... Get it? lol  good luck!