The boy who's never happy??

[MommyTurtle1985]

OK this blog is bout my son Andrew. He drives me crazy 24 hours a day. I dont know how to explain it he's just a poop.  I don't understand how one kid can be so damn picky or whatever. He never smiles.......well yeah he does but 98% of the time he is fussing,crying, or whining about something. Then he goes to Day care and act like an angel. He's only been going to day care for about a month and its only 3 days a week.  They say he's polite well mannered, plays well with other, is just a great kid. ............what? Are we talking about he same little boy?

 

 

 the boy i know comes home from day care and automatically demands water, juice, toys, movie, dinner. damn Popsicles, ASAP. Excuse me?  I understand that may be what they do there at the day care but not here at home. And they dont to that at the daycare because I've gone there to pick him up and they have kids in time out and stuff like that. So where does he get this attitude. So anyway......yeah so he comes home demanding things and of course Daddy is the first one to be like oh hell no.......you don't talk to us that way and all that.......so for the rest of the evening he's in time out CRYING. So  when he cries he SCREAMS...omg just for time out. He's the most manipulative kids in the world......he usually goes to bed right after dinner all he does is fuss and cry. omg.

On the Days where he doesn't go to take care.......he's a poop. everything is wrong, cant share toys.......just an obnoxios kid!! Laughs right in my face when daddy's not home so yes i spank him but that never seems to help. He sits in his room yelling help me and feed me. .....................Any suggestions? I was thinking about anti depessants or something but that takes time and i think its a behavior problem cause he's night and day at day care. Going CRAZY Hes not polite at home!

 

[kustomkrochet]

May. 6, 2009 at 12:14 PM

It sounds as if you are at your wits end.  He may be acting out with you and not at daycare because he is comfortable acting out at home because there are no consequesnces.  You need to find a way to teach him to control himself, even if you have to let him cry it out.  Don't cave in to his demands, or he will push you further.  Just remember this is the child you brought into the world and everything will work out.  It's probably just a phase he is going through.

[Rachael]

May. 6, 2009 at 12:17 PM

Oh hun you need to have a structured day just like daycare.  I am not sure how old he is but there are things you can do at home to help.   Try saying "Let's have breakfast and pick up some toys then we will watch a movie.  You can pick."   If they have incentive they usually do really well.  Just so you knonw it is NOT abnormal for kids to be angels for thier caregivers and then lash out at home.  Do not allow him to demand anything from you... that is means for an immediate timeout.  I have 3 kids and I was a preschool teacher if you ever have any questions feel free to ask.  I do not know everything, but I know a lot, lol.  good luck.

[NannyB.]

May. 6, 2009 at 12:25 PM

My guess is that your son senses how you feel about him and what you are seeing is the absolute frustration of having no idea why or what to do about it.  Little children sense rejection and he is sensing yours.  The reason he is so well behaved at daycare is he senses there that he is at least on some level of equality with the other children.  If I were where you are today, I would get the book THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES OF CHILDREN by Dr. Gary Smalley.  I would read it and then figure out what my child needed from me, and I would do everything within my power to give it to him.