My name is Laura, I am 19, and expecting my first, while my husband is gone in th army.
Before he left we had my mother and father move in with us, we were trying to help them, knowing that they were living in a trailor they could hardly afford, my mom's health is terrrible, so we offered them part of our home, and set up who was responsible for what. My husband left and everything went to hell.
I found out three days after my husband left that I was pregnant, and I am so thrilled because I was told I was infertil, so we were very excited, even though he will not be here for the pregnancy, we decided to see it through and have a little baby of our own. The first month he was gone was fine, then i made a mistake and let my mother see our account balance, since then instead of sharing the bills, i have paid everything, not just my part of it, even after I had to quit my job because stress was threatening my health and so my babys. Telemarketing not really the easiest job stress wise. Even all that i can look past because some people have it worse then others especially with this economy.
But things just keep going, if i spend to much time in my room, she is saying i am depressed or avoiding her and she gets upset, usually i can brush this off because i am pregnant it is harder to do and my emotions are everywhere. If i go somewhere without her or go somewhere without letting her know ahead of time i am runing away from responsibilities and she gets upset again. She is constantly handing me information or telling me different things about depression after i have the baby and telling me that since i am easily upset now that when i have the baby she thinks i will have problems with wanting to keep going. I know it is a risk but this is a child i am lookig forwayr to and it hurts to know that my mother thinks that.
I can not get her not to smoke near me, i do not care if she quits but she smokes a pack a day and like i said before if i spend too much time in another room she says i am avoiding her, if i say somthing about the cigarettes she tells me second hand does not do anything. And I do not know what to say, she is my mother and when i go to say anything i get a lecture about her failing health and how i need to respect her before something happens, and if i can not respect her how cann i be a good mother, and i just dont know how to say anything to her or my father and just want other opinions to figure out what to do, or if tis is just me over reacting, i depended a lot on my husband for that and i have not gotten to talk to him in weeks.