Update on children situation

[dracobaby82]

So, some of you know that my SO's children, the girls anyways, are having a hard time... lots of inappropriate touching of each other and with our other children. At first it was just one of his kids, and she went with her aunt for about a month to see if things would get any better. She came back, and we got her into counseling... it wasn't working, and since she was back, she had to share a room with her older sister, and we had the younger ones in one room. The counseling was my idea, he just wanted to send her back to her mom's, which is in another state and she hasn't seen her mom in about 2 years now.

So anyways we tried the counseling, it wasn't going anywhere, but kept her going every week. About a month or so ago the oldest started the same stuff, with the touching. We kept them separated from the other children in the house, but no way to separate the two girls, especially at nite. They touch eachother all the time, and there wasn't anything we could do about it. We were trying to get help from social services, once they found out that this is only going on "between siblings" there isn't anything they could do. My SO told them to just take the 2 girls and get them the help they need, and it isn't safe for them in our home anymore, they told us there was nothing for them to do.

We decided to send the girls back to their mom, and maybe she could figure something out with them. There was too much stress in this house and everyone felt it. I am preggo with twins, and am only 5months now. So before we sent the kids back, we had them all dna tested to find out which ones if any are actually his. His x cheated on him from day one. So the results came back and only one of the 3 are his, the oldest. The sad thing is she has had another child with her all this time... possibly his, and so he wants to get that one tested as well. I feel so bad for him, I don't even know what to say. He also found out that his half-brother might be the father to his son, the youngest.

I some what feel the blame on having to send both his daughters back, because if we would have sent the one a long time ago, we might not have had this problem with his oldest as well. So it sucks, we sent one that was his back to their mom, and the one we kept here isn't his. He was having a hard time dealing with this for a while, almost wanted to send his son back to the x, because he isn't his. But he finally came to his senses, and is going to keep him. My SO's brother doesn't want anything to do with his possible child anyways... and he's not a great guy, been in and out of prison and has 3-4 other children whom he doesn't support.

Just the new update

[HotCouture]

May. 8, 2009 at 3:00 PM OMG I am so sorry, this has to be so hard for you and your family. I dont know what to say so I will just offer you a (((HUG))).