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What do I do??? *Help Seriously Needed*
- May 10, 2009 at 12:59 AM
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Ok, so, for some reason, DH has been in a "mood" all day today...everything was MY fault...I messed his whole weekend up (how, Idk). Anyway, we got home around 6...everything was fine. We (including our son) were all having a good time, wrestling around and being silly. Well, out of nowhere, around 7:30pm, DH gets up, grabs the keys, puts his shoes on and says "I'll be back in half an hour". Ok, whatever...thinking he was going to go get something for dinner (no food in the house AT ALL). So, around 9pm I call him....and call him....and call him. After about 15 attempts, he answers the phone in a mean voice. I'm like "where are you? I thought you were going to be gone for 30 minutes....we have nothing for dinner, ds is ovbiously hungry, and he only has 2 diapers left".
Well, dh is a truck driver, and his excuse is that "he can't take anymore of my attitude, so he's staying in his truck for the night"....wtf??? Well, I'm pregnant, and he's already made me mad, so I hang up on him, crying....for the next 20 minutes he calls me repeatedly, only to bash me....even having the BALLS to call me a fat ass!!! I'm pregnant with his child, and the mother of his son. WTH gives him the right to call me a fat ass....granted, I'm by no means skinny, but come on!
Anyway, after about 10 time of his calling me and bashing me, I start answering the phone and immediately hanging up, telling him I really don't want to talk to him anymore this evening. So, he begins to think its all a joke...I really don't understand why, because he just keeps putting me down and telling me I'm the worst mother/wife in the world, and stupid crap like that.....
Finally, he stops calling me repeatedly around 10-10:30. Well, at 12:30, still no diapers....we're down to one, still no food, nothing to drink for ds......thankfully we did still have a stupid, unhealthy tv dinner in the freezer, so guess what ds ate??? Yup, you guessed it....but, nothing for me....I would feed my son first anyday, but I AM pregnant and have 2 babies to worry about now. I finally scavenge the cabinets and find ONE poptart left....so I ate that...better than nothing, right? Anywho, I called him, expecting to ask him if he was REALLY going to leave OUR son without diapers, milk, juice and food.....and guess what? His phone is off....he turned his f*ckin' phone off!!!!!
What do I do? I have no transportation, no money (he keeps all the money, and only gives me a little at a time), no food, nothing. My only family is 350 miles away. I'm so confused/p*ssed/depressed/worried.......I just don't know what to do. He has been finding reasons to argue with me ALL WEEK LONG! wth did I do to deserve this????
Ok, I'm going to stop now....I think I've written a chapter in a book....If you've made it this far, thank you....Please leave me any advice you can......but please no bashing me.....
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WOW ummm is there any cheating suspicions? Im wondering because out of the blue why would he get mad and put u down which men do when they are not saying he is but still and also not tell you where he was going nor answere your calls and then turn it off on you..... thats BS! I would be super pissed. Not right to leave a pregnant wife and young child at home with no food drinks or diapers....... I agree with the previous poster take care of you and your children and SCREW HIM .... lol sorry that just makes me mad
Honey call someone to come and get you. Even if he comes home this seems to be an ongoing thing. Take care of yourself and your son and baby on the way. Get some support from loved ones right now.
I agree with pnwmom. Call someone to come and get you and your ds. Even if it is family that lives hours away. It sounds like you need to get out. Your husband sounds like a sorry excuse for a man if he is willing to let his child and pregnant wife go hungry. Even if he was pissed at you for a legitimate reason, he could have given you money or brought you groceries and then left again. He needs a wake-up call.
You do realize that this is abuse right? I was in an abusive relationship for 10 years, When you are ready you will do what is right by the kids, and only you can be the one to be ready for the help that others will be willing to give if asked, however you have to be done with it. Counseling may work for you too. Withholding money and necessities on purpose? What kind of person does that? Don't let anyone speak to you disrespectfully! Realize that you are someone and worth so much more then that. Self respect will not allow you to take that kind of treatment. I hope that everything works out for you,,, I truly do
I'm sorry...it sounds like he may have "other interests"....either way, this is abandonment...and it is a reason to file for divorce. Although, just the fact that he could be so cruel to you and the children should be a reason.
Do you want to stay with him? If so, you all need some extensive counseling. NO ONE should ever treat you the way he is treating you and NO ONE should isolate you from others and leave you without money or transportation.
What is happening now? Has he come home? Do you have any food? Do you have a friend who can help you? If not, call a local Church and explain your situation.
You can file for a separation at your local Juvenile and Domestic Relations Court...also, you might be able to get some legal advice from legal aide in your city. Below are links for Food Banks/Churches and the Human Services office. You should be on WIC for your babies and yourself -- that would provide some basic needs...like milk, cheese, cereal, peanut butter, tuna, juice, formula. Also, if your DH moves out..he would be obligated to pay Child Support (and Spousal Support if you haven't been working). The children and you can get medical care at the local Public Health Clinic but, should also qualify for Medicaid.
http://www.centralpafoodbank.org/agency-support/agencies.asp?page=17&cid=
http://www.dauphincounty.org/human-services/
Good Luck...please let us know how you are doing!
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I would head to your parents, a sibling, anything! It is horrible that he would leave you and your son at home with no food. He....*breathing deep*
You just need to take care of yourself and your kids. Do what you need to do.
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