Stop the JUDGING! (Mild Cursing)

[Earth-Angel]

A post in one of my groups got me thinking and I thought I would make a journal post about it!  Why is it that as mothers' we find the need to offend or call other mothers' names or judge them when they come on here for advice and/or support or maybe just to vent? Yes, open forums, journals etc are up for debate when it's all public! Yes, I have judged people in the past, not much! But, needless to say: I have! After all, we all are only human!  Anyway, I have seen posts about Abortion, Public Assistance, Military, Vaccinations, Circumcisions, Breastfeeding, Bottlefeeding, Television, if kids are supervised, Discipline, Schooling, Religion, Politics, Gays, Racism, Foods, ETC. So, why is it do you feel the need to bash someone else's lifestyle and call a person unfit? Not, everyone will agree with you, a healthy debate is good, but I have learned to give respect to those that have a different view on things than you. If anyone ever been in  Speech class in School and you have had debates, you know what I mean. Anyway, as for PA, yes some people abuse the system and some don't, the ones that abuse the system are the ones that make it harder for people that need help to receive help! So, it happens and it sucks, but what are you going to do? There isn't anything to do, call it in? do you have proof that it's happening? Where's the proof? Someone has nice clothes on that they could have bought from a thrift store or someone gave to them, and yes! you can get nice clothes that way! Or, the fact that they drive a nice Blazer instead of a clunker! Maybe they got it as a gift, maybe they are making payments on it or maybe they are borrowing it!  What about giving people benefit of a doubt!  The song by Everlast had it summed it up perfectly: "unless you walk a mile in their shoes, you don't know what it's like".  Ok, so we have to pay taxes on that stuff, regardless if they need or abuse the system, we have to pay taxes anyway, no way to avoid it.  Taxes go to way more things then that and a lot of times the same people on PA are working, so aren't they paying taxes to the same services we all are bitching about? We as mothers' just have to remember that we all parent differently, we all think differently, we have our own opinions, views on things, religion or not! Not all of us will agree!   If we all  think a lot, agree and did things the same etc, we wouldn't be humans, we would be Robots! A lot of us will make mistakes, no one is perfect no matter how they come across and some people were put on here to make other people's lives a living Hell! But, I for one try not to judge, in my replies, I try to give my opinion and I put it as so and I usually try to move on:  But, I will defend myself if I am attacked!  I usually don't bash people or call names, because that's all high school stuff and something I would never do is repeat high school! LOL! What is the point of all the bashing and drama anyway? You aren't going to change people's minds, why try?  I just thought I would make this journal, maybe it would make people think before they act!   Happy Mother's Day!

PEACE!

[momto2boys973]

May. 11, 2009 at 12:48 PM

It's called "mommy wars" lol

I will never bash anyone for her decision, even if it's different than mine. To each her own. BUT if anyone decides to bash MY decisions then I will defend myself. Not by attacking the other mom or her own choices, but by showing that my choice is valid and positive too. Because, honestly, no one has the right to question my intelligence, my capcity to reason and my abilities as a mother just because they can Google something and feel "informed".

Sharon

[Earth-Angel]

May. 11, 2009 at 3:41 PM

Yeah, I thought of putting this journal out there bc I have seen mothers get down right nasty by calling eachother filthy names etc. But, disagreeing, debating in a healthy manner is great in a constructive manner, I was taught that in speech class back in h.s. LOL! And, defending yourself I can understand if someone attacks you first! But, there are moms that get down right ugly about things!

(Original Poster)