This maybe long but i don't really have any friends that i can talk to about this and i can't really talk to my family about it either. So i feel like i need to share with someone. Anyways. My parents divorced when i was 6. My dad was abusive to my mom and half brother and sister. So when my parents divorced my mom fought to have all rights to her and none to my dad. I guess that there was a time when he had some rights but he told me it was taken from him when he tried to protect us and once he made a slip. So anyways i grew up with really no memory of my dad and the feelings he was a bad man and didn't really care about me at all. I never recieved any gifts from him. It never bothered me until i got old enough to know and understand. I have probably seen him no more than 7 times since i was 6 and i am now 21. Well about a month ago i ran into him at the movie theater he was with some of his friends and we talked for a min and my husband got his number. I really was shocked and really didn't even know what happend and didn't really want his number. My husband just asked me questions like don't u want your kids to know your dad and how would u feel if your dad died and u didn't even know him or tried to get to know him. He asked that question because my mom and dad are about 16 years apart. So his number has been haunting me since i got it and so yesterday morning i called him and i got all the courage him my heart to invite him to mothers day dinner. I really didn't think he was going to come he really didn't know if he could come. But Surprisingly he came. It went pretty well. I feel better about myself and hope that i may get to know my father. we talked about alot of things and some i am so confused to know if its true. LIke he said i know your probably wondering why i never sent u any gifts and he told me the courts told him he couldn't send any because he didn't have any rights to see us. They said he could give us gifts but the social workers would have to give it to us and it wouldn't really be from him. I am really confused about that would the judge and social workers really do that to a dad and his kids. He told me lots of things that i am afraid to believe i guess mainly because i grew up to know only one side of the story. But i am also afraid he is lieing to me to make it seem like he does care and that he really wanted us. He seems like a really nice guy and everything. But how do u really know when u don't remember.