If you are a single parent, you are...

[Melmom555]

"The strongest predictor of whether a person will end up in prison is that he was raised by a single parent.” -Anne Coulter in her book GUILTY

Excuse me while I gag…

While there are some very interesting statistics on single moms and their finances compared to single dads and their finances,  it is very unfair to condemn people with such a statement!

First, I am not a single parent.  I married a man with 2 children, I am a stepmom.  Now, my wonderful husband WAS a single parent...and a good one!  His focus was on his children, and he felt the best he could do for them financially was to stay a safe, poorly paid schoolteacher.  So, he settled...at least for awhile.

If you are a single parent, you are a single parent for one or all of these reasons:

1.  Circumstances

2.  Necessity

3.  Choice

In itself, single parenthood is:

Not a bad thing-

Not a good thing

It is a very challenging thing.

Whatever reason got you here, what you do with it is up to you.  You can be a victim or a victor.

Is your attitude:

This is the load that's been dropped on me.

Or

These are the challenges I will overcome.

Couple of thoughts on Coulter’s statement:

1. Why all the finger pointing?  Is it going to change things to name 1 segment of society as the blame for all our ills? CRAZY! Get over that!

2. We all need to stop looking outside for a solution. I teach young people with special needs - now, THEY don't have much control how their lives unfold...YOU do! You have the power to change whatever you don't like about life. Now, some will say, "But you just don't know how bad I have it!" It doesn't matter. If you want something different, you will create it.

You don't have to settle to be a good single parent.  You can live within your current means while expanding your means on the side!  You can have all you want in life!

And forget about all the finger pointers in the world!  There is no one cause for all our problems.  We do know that it will take a positive group effort to overcome any of our current ills.

Okay, I'll shut up. Keep in mind the driest of management courses will teach about self-fulfilled prophecy. What you tell yourself long enough, you will bring about. Tell yourself good stuff. The brain is listening.

“Raising a family is difficult enough. But it's even more difficult for single parents struggling to make ends meet. They don't need more obstacles. They need more opportunities.”   -Bill Richardson

Women are natural marketers!  Watch this:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BTkbw5k0FWQ  (copy and paste this)

 

[Helen]

May. 14, 2009 at 10:09 PM

My dh, his cousin and his friend are all products of single mother households.  They are all productive members of society.  My dh is well adjusted.  His only problem is that he was an only child and does not know how to share.  My kids have taugth him that.

[emf6874]

May. 14, 2009 at 11:42 PM

Anne Coulter has got to be the most ignorant B*#CH on the planet!! How anyone can take anything she says seriously is beyond me!