Weight Debate between me and DH

[sunnymoon627]

In the past 2 years, I have lost about 12 pounds.  DH has gained over 40.  We have barely had any sex lately and when I asked him why he told me it's because my thighs are too big and he can't "get around that huge ass" 

I've always been on the heavy side, but I was that way from our first date.  And in the beginning we had plenty of intimacy.  It's only been since he's put on the weight that we've been having this dry spell.

Should I even bother bringing his hypocrisy to light?

[sour_blueberry]

May. 17, 2009 at 5:28 AM

He's wanting to blame you when he is to blame. Don't let him bring you down. Show him the facts and let him see who is to really blame! Or maybe there is another reason that he's not telling you?

[tyme4me2day]

May. 17, 2009 at 8:02 AM

Your husband got fat and its a workout to have sex... so I see the problem as his. Its not your fault and your husband needs to take responsibility for his weight gain.

[kittyhasclaws]

May. 17, 2009 at 1:54 PM

He's obviously self-conscious about his own weight gain and doesn't want to admit it, so he faults you instead.  He wants to break you down in your self-esteem so he doesn't have to deal with his own.  You need to confront him on this, and tell him straight up that he needs to be a grown up and admit to his own flaws and change them as opposed to trying to blame someone else.

[ColtsFan1912]

May. 17, 2009 at 7:18 PM

i agree ewith kittyhasclaws

he probaly feels bad about his weight gain but instead of being a  man about it he is rude & insults you.  he needs to grow up & face his own insecurities instead of trying to pile them onto you

[adoptionsc]

May. 18, 2009 at 12:32 PM

You should not have to put up with someone putting you down like that, especially your husband.  I'd make sure he knows that it's not OK and if he continues then I'd find someone who appreciated you for who you are.  That's not OK.

[lilangilyn]

May. 18, 2009 at 5:16 PM

Personally I would go out and get a lover.  A really hot one that would kiss me all over my big thighs and butt. And who would worship me for the really hot woman I am. I couldn't live with that constant criticism. I am sorry your husband is being such a dick. It's not about you, you are Ok. It's his fat ass and big thighs that are stopping the sex.