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Paul & I have been trying to get pregnant for almost 2 years now!  We have a toddler, but truth be known he is not Paul's son.  I met Paul while I was only about a couple of months pregnant with James.  We instantly realized that we were meant to be together!  Paul made the decision on his own to be with me & put his name on James' birth certificate.  We have been together ever since & the most critical thing we ever "argue" about is what to watch on television or eat for supper!  LOL!  We have an awesome, solid relationship.  The 3 of us are a very happy little family.  Still, we have felt as if there has been something missing. 

Paul was married before me & I before him.  Paul's ex was a witch, simply said.  Before they were even married she told him that she was unable to have children.  Paul thought he was "in love" with her & told her that it did not matter.  Several years down the road, Paul & she began having problems & Paul could never figure out the cause?!  She moved into a seperate room in the house & began completely ignoring him.  This went on for several years.  One day Paul discovered that she had magically become pregnant!  This was obviously not his child because over the past several years they had never once had sex!  After he found out she was pregnant, she kicked him out of his own home! 

My ex was an abusive, alcoholic jerk!  He was very controlling & eventually resticted my contact from everyone I knew including my family & friends.  He moved me several thousand miles away from everyone & everything I knew.  He refused to let me go to college, get a job, or even have a vehicle.  I was left at home by myself everyday without a car, a phone, or anything for that matter!  My only friend was the elderly woman that lived next door to us!  He was a predator!  I would never reccomend any woman to be in this position!  I was able to get enough money out of his wallet over a couple of months to purchase a bus ticket & I left one day while he was at work.  I did not know at the time that I was pregnant.  I have talked to him since then & he knows about James, but does not know where I am & will never be allowed to have anything to do with James. 

Paul was under the conclusion that he could not have children.  His ex never got pregnant while they were married & eventually became pregnant by someone else.  He also sustained a very serious injury as a child and the doctor warned him that he might never have children.  I explained to him that I felt that his ex must have been on birth control or something.  He was still unsure.  We have been trying for almost 2 years now.  We were beginning to lose faith.  Every month we wasted hundreds of dollars on ovulation kits & pregnancy tests without success.  It was all very frustrating!  Eventually, we just quit trying & focused on other things.  He became more involved in his work & I began college.  Whatever we did, it worked!  I am now pregnant!  We are due in December 2009!  We are both hoping for a sweet, little girl! 

[mamatobe2009]

Nov. 6, 2009 at 4:06 PM

This is the sweetest thing I have ever read. I began crying! This gives me hope. I M/C last october and my DH and I want to begin trying in Dec/Jan. Congratulations! I hope this pregnancy and the years to come with your little one brings tons of joy to your and Paul's lives!