After almost two years of being a stay at home Mom, I finally thought about all that is sacrificed.  Selfishly, I miss my husband and our kids miss their Dad, because he now works a lot more and works late often to bring home enough money to cover the bills, and give us some extras to buy cool stuff or do fun things (i/e Disney).  We are super lucky DH is a dedicated hard worker, but at the same time we miss him.  It's hard to get that across to DH without making him feel guilty.  We know why he works hard and why he work often and late...but we still miss him.  Again, selfishly, I've sacrificed happy hour with co-workers (my co-workers are under age now, lol, ahem, my children ;)  and therefore loose that adult interaction with non family members.  I've sacrificed my independence of earning my own income and sometimes I think I've sacrificed fashion because there's really no point in me wearing a skirt and a suit jacket to shuttle to school, do laundry, and cook dinner.  My wardrobe consist of velour sweats in the winter, cut off capri sweats in the fall/ spring, and tanks, cotton shorts, and swim cover ups in the summer. 

But then I think about all that I've gained...I really think first off, DH appreciates me more now that I am home and do more "house stuff" on my own.  The house is tidier.  Even though I may have lost the respect of an income contributer to the family, I've earned respect as keeping it all together.  Our kids are much happier, more active and involved, better fed, and better rested.  Vocabularies have improved (mine, not so much, lol ;)  The children have even become closer with each other since I have been home.  Not to mention I feel closer to my boys now than ever...even since breastfeeding, because at least now they are talking to me!  Just the things they come up with, and the things they say, it's amazing how much they've grown up and what wonderful kids they are.  I can only hope this is a reflection of what amazing adults I hope they turn out to be.  As much as being laid off sucks.  As much as financial difficulties are an adjustment for everyone.  I think times like these past two years really makes us appreciate each other and has made us all grow closer and value the time we do have together even more. 

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