The Selfishness of Men

[motherofanaries]

Reading through a post about vasectomies and the women who said their SOs would never get one I went off on a tangent and decided to post it here as well..

Why not?  We as women have so much more responsibility when it comes to creating our families. 

When we're not ready for kids, we have to go on birth control, taking hormones every day, or every week, or every month, or every 3 months to ensure that we don't end up with any surprises.  And while we're on those hormones, many of us have to suffer the side effects, from weight gain to depression.

When we do get pregnant, we have to carry the baby ourselves, lose our bodies in the process, change our eating habits, sacrifice enjoying certain beverages, not to mention the fact that pregnant women get all kinds of unsolicited attention.  It's like our bumps invite strangers to give us bad advice, make judgements, and touch us.

Then we actually have to give birth.  Nuff said!

After that, we still have to stay home on maternity leave, and many of us (in our age group especially, I think) lose a lot of our "friends" who don't have children, while our SOs continue with their lives.

(Now, don't get me wrong, I loved being pregnant, and I know that women giving birth is NOT something we can change lol And I'm not even really complaining, but just pointing out how our roles are so vastly different)

So when the time comes where we decide our families are complete... I think the men should definitely step up and do this ONE thing for us!

Here's another example of the selfishness of men... or maybe just my man.

I asked him about donating sperm for some extra cash, since we're trying to save more money.  But he refused, saying that it wouldn't be worth it and he didn't want to have any kids running around with women he didn't even sleep with.

Then he suggested I donate eggs!  And he was serious!  He would rather me travel into Philly to a clinic several times during the process, inject myself with hormones daily, let me deal with the weight gain and mood swings, and give up sex for an entire cycle, and finally, go have surgery to harvest the eggs, than just walk in somewhere and get paid to look at porn.

On the other hand... he is more than willing to have a vasectomy when we're done!  LOL

[StefMc07]

Jun. 1, 2009 at 5:00 PM

I already told Dh he's getting snipped when the time comes. He agrees with me. The recovery time for him would be a lot less than it would for me to have my tubes tied.

[jus1jess]

Jun. 1, 2009 at 6:44 PM

OMG I 100% agree! Guys have it sooooo much easier in those areas. Hubby's saying no snippy either. But sterilizing a man is far less painful and invasive than a woman. I don't think it's fair. Especially after all I go through for family planning. Same for egg donation. It's tough stuff. I've considered it and it sounds hard. But a guy would just jack off......

[logansmomma2007]

Jun. 1, 2009 at 7:24 PM

Great points.  I have asked my husband about doing the procedure eventually and he always scoffs at me.  I am going to read this post to him and see if he has a change of heart.  *holds breathe*

[busywithkids]

Jun. 3, 2009 at 1:15 AM

Go for the vas!!! Go for the vas!!!

I LOVE not having to worry about BC any more.  (I am horrible, horrible at taking pills,  I kept forgetting and then stressing about possibly being pg.)

[logansmomma2007]

Jun. 3, 2009 at 2:37 PM

LOL, yeah, good luck with that!!

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Great points.  I have asked my husband about doing the procedure eventually and he always scoffs at me.  I am going to read this post to him and see if he has a change of heart.  *holds breathe*

 

(Original Poster)